By Lu Yao, China
Lu Yao had been envious that others could get together with their families to enjoy the sweetness of family since she was young. When she was four years old, her father often fought and quarreled with her mother, and under the pressure of livelihood, her father went out to work. Afterward, her father came back less and less, and also rarely sent back money to the family. Even if her father occasionally came back, he always quarreled with her mother. Whenever that happened, Lu Yao was too scared to fall asleep. At that time, the fact that her father had an affair outside spread wildly in the village. When Lu Yao was on her way, she could hear the voice of sarcasm: “Do you know your father finds a new mother for you? He has another family outside. Do you want to go to the new family? If you see that woman, will you call her mama?” Hearing the villagers’ intentional ridicule, the young girl was in extreme pain. She wanted to dispute but she didn’t dare. When Lu Yao saw her playmates act like a spoiled child in their fathers’ arms and happily eat together with their families, and when she thought her father discarded her and her mother, she was in great pain. All of this brought into her heart a great shadow. At that time, she often shed tears alone under the covers at mid-night.
Growing up in such an environment, Lu Yao had been desired to own a happy family when she grew up. When Lu Yao was at school, she often was attracted by the perfect marriage between the heroes and heroines in books or TV plays, so she pinned her hope on her future marriage. After stepping into the society, Lu Yao bumped into a boy during work. The boy fell for her at first sight. Later, he persistently wooed her, and then she accepted him. At the time, they often chatted till late into the night, with endless words to say. In Lu Yao’s life, as long as she was unhappy, the boy would try all kinds of ways to cheer her up, and he often gave her much surprise. Once, Lu Yao lost her phone. The boy couldn’t contact her and as a result, he was too anxious to fall asleep. He stayed up all night to write down how he met, knew, and loved her in the form of journal and published it on his QQ zone, and prepared to ask for a leave the next day to go to the city where she was and look for her.
Lu Yao’s heart was deeply touched by the boy’s actions and the beautiful journal in the QQ zone. Seeing the boy was so affected, his friends all left messages to ask what kind of the heroine was. When seeing all these, Lu Yao felt she was the happiest. Later on, Lu Yao was surprised to find the boy had a similar growing-up environment like her, which made her even confirm that the boy exactly was the person whom she would marry to, for she believed that with the similar growing-up experience, they would both particularly cherish their marriage, and that their life in the future would be much happier. After that, Lu Yao secretly moved to the city where the boy was without telling her families. The boy was very moved, and was so kind to her. In Lu Yao’s heart, the boy was the one she could rely on, and she was full of expectation for their marriage. Even though her friends tried to persuade her that the boy didn’t deserve her, and that she should find someone with a better background, yet she thought that a marriage based on the materials didn’t have a common language and a foundation of affections, which would not last long and would not be happy. And so, Lu Yao reasonably married to the boy.
After they married, Lu Yao tasted that living a life was different from being in love and brought her some more vexations and responsibilities, but she thought that as long as they loved and tolerated each other, such a family still was happy even if their life was a little bitter and tiring. Lu Yao put all her energy on her husband and her child, and was kind to her husband’s families. Her parents-in-law also loved her very much. Even though they lived under the same roof, they got along well with each other. People around them all envied their family.
Just when Lu Yao was swimming in the bliss, she accidently saw her husband’s chat record with his friend. His friend said, “You really can’t go on having affair with that woman, or your family will break up, and you will lose everything.” Her husband answered, “I don’t care about the outcome. I just want to enjoy the process.” The news of her husband’s affair befell her like a bolt from the blue. She immediately fell to the lowest. Her husband’s words like needles struck into her heart. She couldn’t believe it, but the pain told her that she wasn’t dreaming. What was most laughable to Lu Yao was: Two months before, one friend’s marriage ended in divorce because her husband had an affair, and they turned into strangers from previous couple. When Lu Yao comforted the friend, she sighed with emotion that she found a husband who loved her. But now, Lu Yao felt like being given a heavy slap on the face by the reality.
Her child was sleeping sweetly by her side. Lu Yao saw the baby’s pink face and told herself: I am no longer a young girl, but a mother; I have to be strong, because I have a baby to take care of. Lu Yao struggled to restrain her body from shaking, dried her tears, and calmed herself down. However, she had been damaged by the excessive anger. She should have had enough breast milk to feed the baby, but it went empty in several hours. The poor baby got hungry and cried loudly because it couldn’t suck out milk. The mother-in-law standing aside felt so heart-broken that she shed tears.
During this period, Lu Yao had been doing a lot of thinking. She thought she had paid too much for her marriage. She didn’t want to lose it, nor did she want her child to repeat her experience of childhood. She wanted to ask that woman out and tried to persuade her to stop their affair, so as to save her broken marriage. Therefore, Lu Yao followed her husband secretly, but unexpectedly, she was found by him. Just at the moment, her husband’s phone rang, and it was from the woman. Lu Yao wrested the phone intending to ask her out, but there was no response. Lu Yao was so angry that she scolded the woman for shamelessly breaking others’ family. Her husband was very cross with her and even wanted to hit her. Lu Yao never thought her husband could treat her in that way because of that woman. At the point, she realized that their marriage had reached its end.
After that, Lu Yao lost weight sharply, and her idea of living on became weaker and weaker. It was her husband who fulfilled her dream of having a happy family, but now all of this vanished into the void. Her husband’s infidelity brought her a big blow. She once wanted to die to get rid of the pain, but when she thought of her aged parents and her sucking baby, she hesitated. She was afraid that if she died, could her parents bear the grievous news? And what about her child? When thinking of these, she had a pain in the chest. Without a choice, she had to live from day to day. Since then, in Lu Yao’s eyes, the sky became grey, and everything became cold. Lu Yao often thought in the deep night: I only want a happy family, but why is it so hard to get it? It is like a dream that can never be fulfilled. …
Seeing Lu Yao was so unhappy, Lu Yao’s mother talked to her: “My child, you should read God’s word and tell God your pain, because only God can help you.” Lu Yao also felt that no one was able to help her, even those of her relatives, friends who had long been close to her could not help her. They just came to comfort her when hearing the bad news, but their comfort was mixed with ridicule and some even added fuel to the flame, which brought her a greater pain. So, Lu Yao tried to say the words within her heart to God. Every time after she talked to God, she felt released in her heart for a while, and also felt that there was a power supporting her to face the future life. Lu Yao knew that although she couldn’t see God, she could feel God comforted her inner sorrow and pain by His warm hand. Gradually, God became the reliance in Lu Yao’s heart. Reading God’s word and praying to God every day also became an indispensable thing in her life. She also attended meetings with brothers and sisters, and smiles began to appear on her face.
When Lu Yao listened to a hymn of God’s word: “When you are weary and when you begin to feel the desolation of this world, do not be perplexed, do not cry., the Watcher, will embrace your arrival any time. He is watching by your side, waiting for you to turn back. He is waiting for the day your memory suddenly recovers: becoming conscious of the fact that you came from God, somehow and somewhere once lost, falling unconscious on the roadside, and then, unknowingly having a father. You further realize that the Almighty has been watching there, awaiting your return all along.” Lu Yao was so touched by God’s word that her face was bathed in tears. She felt her hurt soul finally had a place to rest. It turns out that God has always been waiting for her returning before God, and that only God is truly worthy of her reliance. When she was in the most pain and was in the lowest of her life, God’s gospel came upon her. It was God who consoled her painful and sad heart, and gave her courage to face life. It was God who has cared for and had mercy on her all the time. It was God’s love that let her hurt heart feel warm. She was more willing to trust in God.
Once, Lu Yao saw God’s word says, “Adam and Eve created by God in the beginning were holy people, which is to say, whilst in the Garden of Eden they were holy, untainted with filth. They were also faithful to Jehovah, and knew nothing of the betrayal of Jehovah. This is because they were without the disturbance of the influence of Satan, were without Satan’s poison, and were the purest of all mankind. They lived in the Garden of Eden, undefiled by any filth, unpossessed by the flesh, and in reverence of Jehovah. Later, when they were tempted by Satan, they had the poison of the serpent, and the desire to betray Jehovah, and they lived under the influence of Satan. In the beginning, they were holy and revered Jehovah; only like this were they human. Later on, after they were tempted by Satan, they ate the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and lived under the influence of Satan. They were gradually corrupted by Satan, and lost the original image of man. In the beginning, man had the breath of Jehovah, and was not the slightest bit disobedient, and had no evil in his heart. At that time, man was truly human.” “Man has been corrupted too deeply by Satan. Satan’s venom flows through the blood of every person, and man’s nature is visibly corrupt, evil, and reactionary, filled by and immersed in the philosophies of Satan.”
From, Lu Yao understood that the people in the beginning were not corrupted by Satan and that they had no poison of Satan in their heart. People of nowadays have been corrupted by Satan, and they all live in Satan’s domain and are manipulated by Satan. Because of accepting words of Satan, people are unable to distinguish between black and white, right and wrong, and justice and injustice, so that they become more and more depraved, and that the society also becomes increasingly evil and licentious. She thought of her husband. Because of accepting the sayings of Satan such as “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all,” “Prostitution is better than poverty,” he lost his humanity and conscience, and became cold and ruthless. When he started to seek indulgence of the flesh and lust, he ignored advice of his friends, turned a deaf ear to her dissuasion, and didn’t think about his child, but rather built his joy on the suffering of his family. She also thought: Nowadays, under the influence of the social trends such as “Keeping ‘the red flag’ (wife) standing in the house, with ‘colorful flags’ (mistress) fluttering outside,” “A man’s life is meaningless without a mistress,” and “A woman’s life is empty without a lover,” countless people have changed their thoughts—regarding extramarital affair that violates standards of morality and ethics as normal. They are not only not ashamed of it but actively to fit it, and dignify it with the name of capability, fashion, and trend. In order to meet their fleshly lust, they ignored their families and children, causing many families to break up and even be ruined. The same tragedy that happened to her is repeating in countless families. After understanding these, Lu Yao was free of pain brought by her husband’s infidelity, because she knew that all the pain was brought by Satan and that her husband was also a victim. He was affected by the social trends, so he changed from thoughtfully caring for her to completely ignoring her feeling, even to the point that he wanted to hit her for the sake of that woman. All of this was the result of being poisoned by evil trends.
Afterward, Lu Yao saw God’s word says, “At the moment when a person is born, one lonely soul begins its experience of life on earth, its experience of the Creator’s authority which the Creator has arranged for it. Needless to say, for the person, the soul, this is an excellent opportunity to gain knowledge of the Creator’s sovereignty, to come to know His authority and to experience it personally. … If one views life as an opportunity to experience the Creator’s sovereignty and come to know His authority, if one sees one’s life as a rare chance to perform one’s duty as a created human being and to fulfill one’s mission, then one will necessarily have the correct outlook on life, will live a life blessed and guided by the Creator, will walk in the light of the Creator, know the Creator’s sovereignty, come under His dominion, become a witness to His miraculous deeds and to His authority.”
God’s word is like a lamp, and shows Lu Yao the way ahead. In the past, she didn’t know God, nor did she know the value and meaning of life, so she regarded pursuing a happy family as a goal of her life, and regarded her husband as the only object she could rely on. Before the facts, she experienced that in this world controlled by Satan, even her husband himself was unable to withstand the affection of the social trends. How could he bring her happiness? It was wrong that she committed all happiness of her life to her husband. Lu Yao finally saw clearly that if she didn’t come before God to receive the salvation of God, all her life would be in vain and in pain, and there would be no happiness to speak of. Lu Yao thought of the time when her husband betrayed her, she had lost the confidence in living. If it hadn’t been for God’s protection, she wouldn’t have known whether she could live tenaciously. After understanding these, she became more certain that only by believing in God and pursuing the truth, could she have a true meaningful life, and could she walk out of the impasse of her broken marriage.
After that, Lu Yao began to put God’s word into practice in real life. From God’s word and her experience, she knew man’s life is in God’s hand. She has learned to commit everything to God and let God rule over and arrange it, and also has learned to discern the positive things and the negative in the disclosing of God’s word. Moreover, she also preaches gospel and performs her duty with brothers and sisters. Gradually, she has a new mental outlook, and seems to have changed into another person. She finally gets rid of the sorrow and pain brought by the breakup of her marriage.
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By Liu Tao Yang Liu and Xiang Ming got married through a matchmaker’s introduction. After marriage, though their life was not rich, Xiang Ming showed the utmost care and consideration for Yang Liu. When Yang Liu did the cooking, Xiang Ming was always her assistant. When going outside to stroll through streets or going shopping, they all went along with each other. The neighbors who saw them all said, “I find that you come everywhere in pairs. You are really an affectionate couple.” Yang Liu also thought that Xiang Ming was her closest confidant and was her lifetime reliance. After they had their lovely son, their family was even more filled with joy and they lived a steady and happy life. When their relative preached the gospel to them, their whole family all believed in the Lord Jesus. Later on, Yang Liu had the privilege of accepting God’s work of the last days. In the same year, they built a spacious and bright house. Xiang Ming didn’t accept God’s work of the last days, but he supported Yang Liu to believe in God, so their relationship was still enviable. However, not long after Xiang Ming worked in a grain and oil processing factory, Yang Liu found that he was a little different from the past. Several times, when they walked together, as soon as his phone rang, he would move away to answer it. Yang Liu guessed: Does Xiang Ming have the unfaithful intentions when he works outside? But when thinking that he treated her very well all the time and had paid a great price for the family, she considered he wouldn’t do that. Although she thought like this, she was still a little worried. Once, a message was sent to his phone as Xiang Ming fell asleep. Because of his abnormal changes, Yang Liu couldn’t help but read the message. It was sent by a female WeChat friend. She replied, “Would you be able to not chat with my husband?” But she never imagined that the female WeChat friend said, “It is not up to me. You should ask your husband. We chatted very happily! You’d better dominate your husband!” Yang Liu was filled with anger at the sight of that, so she turned her husband’s phone off. The next day, she warned Xiang Ming not to chat with female WeChat friends any more. He didn’t refute her, but he began to avoid her. When at home, he always finished meals at the fastest speed, and then looked for an excuse and went to other places to chat with the female net friends. One time, Yang Liu asked Xiang Ming in resentment, “Do you still want the family? Is playing WeChat to talk with female net friends important or am I important? Unexpectedly, he answered coldly, “The female net friends are more important. Now it is Internet age. Who doesn’t do like this, broadening connections and making friends with others? This is fashion!” Hearing her husband’s cold words, Yang Liu seemed to not know him who had lived with herself for over twenty years. Feelings of sorrow and desolation welled up in her heart. At that moment, she felt herself would be faint with anger. She thought about divorcing and leaving the home. But at the thought of her son needing a perfect family, she had to swallow it all up. From then on, Yang Liu and Xiang Ming separately lived in the eastern and western rooms. Though living under the same roof, they were like strangers. The happy family lost the former warmth and peace. Yang Liu felt agonized and stressful in her heart. She didn’t understand why Xiang Ming could become such a person now—a completely different person from before. With sorrow and distress, she could only pray and cry out to God over and over. One day, she saw these words of God, “One after another, all these trends carry an evil influence that continually degenerates man, that lowers their morals and their quality of character more and more, to the extent that we can even say the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. … For man who is not of sound body and mind, who never knows what is truth, who cannot tell the difference between positive and negative things, these kinds of trends one after another make them all willingly accept these trends, the life view, the life philosophies and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them on how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them. They have not the strength, neither do they have the ability, much less the awareness to resist.” From God’s word, she understood: It was because of the influence of web and trends that her husband became like this and could say those words having no regard for their feelings as husband and wife. Thinking back, her husband was fairly fond of her, cherished and cared for their family very much, and had the sense of responsibility. But from the time when he worked in the grain and oil processing factory, under the influence of his colleagues and environment, he became obsessed with chatting on WeChat, always having his phone in his hands. He was deeply addicted to it and unable to extricate himself, totally neglecting their family, her or their son at all. Through the revelation of God’s word, Yang Liu understood: The culprit that have destroyed the happiness of their family is the evil influence brought by the social evil trends, is the WeChat app which occupies her husband’s heart every day, but not her husband, as he is just an innocent and pitiful victim. At that point, she didn’t resent him that much. She resolved to rely on God to fight the battle against satanic evil trends, bringing Xiang Ming back from the claws of Satan. By praying to God and relying on Him, she didn’t give Xiang Ming the cold shoulder as before. She began to speak with him from the heart actively and often read God’s word for him, talked about the harm that social trends bring to man and fellowshiped God’s will of saving man. Seeing the changes of Yang Liu’s attitude, Xiang Ming was able to sit down and had a heart-to-heart talk with her. One day, Yang Liu read two passages of God’s words to Xiang Ming, “The devil Satan does these things in order to lure people, to cause them to degenerate. For those who live in virtual worlds, they have no interest whatsoever in anything to do with the life of normal humanity; they are not in the mood to work or study. They are only concerned about going to virtual worlds, as though they are being enticed by something.” “So within an environment, whatever this environment instills in you, you then become; whatever it instills in you, you then obtain; however it controls you and leads you, in the end you become that kind of person. A man can become someone who is degenerate, evil, and bad in the extreme, and these things are what are brought to him by his environment. So who is the manipulator who controls this environment? What is its nature? … You become like this, and you don’t know when the change began, you’re unclear about it. You’re unclear on how this change has happened. Anyway, you have become who you are today. You don’t know how on earth you came to be this way, you’re unclear about why you took this path in the beginning, unclear about why you have now become like this; in short, you came to be this way in a state of confusion. This is the process of Satan’s corruption of man, and it is the method it uses, and people are therefore corrupted and degenerated in this way.” Yang Liu fellowshiped, “Xiang Ming, you were not like this before. You treated me well, treated our son well and also loved the family very much. But since you are addicted to chatting on WeChat, you have no longer taken care of son and me, and even sometimes you can’t hear me when I talked to you. Moreover, you have lost the normal life. I found that you didn’t know whether you were full when you ate meals, and just gorged some food and then went outside the dining room to play WeChat. You were also not in the mood to work, but were preoccupied with chatting online as well as those female net friends all day. It proves that you have been controlled by the evil trends. Xiang Ming, you seek temporary excitement and comfort when chatting with them, but have you given thought to this? Can chatting on the web really bring you happiness? Can you rely on chatting with these female net friends to spend the rest of your life? Looking around, how many families have broken up because of one side’s chatting online. Some women abandoned their husbands and children and ran off with male net friends; some men left their wives and children for female net friends and involved with them. Aren’t these tragedies caused by the evil trends raised up by Satan？We don’t have the truth and can’t see through Satan’s trickery, but today God’s word has revealed all the treacherous intentions of Satan. Satan is just using the Internet to tempt and corrupt us and make us live in passions and lusts, and enjoy the pleasure of sins so that it can reach its objective to devour us and make us perish together with it in the end. So, we can’t be fooled by Satan!” Hearing God’s word and Yang Liu’s fellowship, Xiang Ming felt very frightened and guilty. He said firmly, “Yang Liu, in the past, I thought people all did like this. It was not very serious. I even thought you were petty and made a fuss with me. Not until today do I understand this is Satan corrupting me. It wants to drag me to hell! It’s really the case. Sometimes I also knew it was not good to chat with net friends, which had influenced our feeling as husband and wife, and made me lose the sense of responsibility to our family. Especially when I saw you unhappy, I felt sad, too. And many time I have told myself never again to access WeChat, but I just couldn’t control my heart. Now I understand, this is Satan using online chats to deceive me and harm me. From now on, I can’t fall into Satan’s trickery any more. I will bring my mind back, and no longer indulge in WeChat. Let’s live well anew!” Hearing Xiang Ming’s words, Yang Liu felt warm in her heart and was greatly comforted. In order to prove his sincerity of repentance, Xiang Ming uninstalled the WeChat before Yang Liu. However, a week later, Yang Liu found Xiang Ming’s received WeChat messages on his phone again. When she questioned Xiang Ming, his face flushed scarlet. He promised her that he would no longer go on WeChat, and threw his phone into the burning cooking stove to prove his resolve of cutting off relations with those female net friends. Yang Liu realized the evil trends had poisoned Xiang Ming too deeply and she could only pray to God urgently, asking God to lead him to forsake the temptation of the evil trends and regain the life of a normal man. Later, when a sister of the church came to Yang Liu’s home to attend the meeting, she also communicated with Xiang Ming. They read two passages of God’s word, “Once these things are established in your mind, once they are stuck in your heart, it is just like a spell…. They influence your life, your outlook on life and they also influence your judgment of things. Even more so they influence your pursuit for the true path of life: This is indeed a spell! You try but you cannot shake them off; you chop at them but you cannot chop them down; you beat at them but you cannot beat them down. Is this not so? (Yes.)” “‘Satan uses so many different ways to corrupt man. It seizes every opportunity and is everywhere we turn. Can man still be saved?’ Is there still any hope for mankind? Can man save themselves? (No.) Can the Jade Emperor save man? Can Confucius save man? Can Guanyin Bodhisattva save man? (No.) So who can save man? (God.)” The sister fellowshiped, “Faced with Satan’s evil trends, if we rely on our own willpower to change that, it won’t do. We should rely on God with sincerity. And if we devote our mind to something serious, to seeking the truth, Satan won’t be able to sway our heart any more, because if we read more God’s word, we would be able to understand some truths and differentiate the evil trends of Satan, and then we will hate them naturally and will not be addicted to them and be deceived by them. As long as we rely on God, His word can resolve all our problems.” Xiang Ming made a deep nod. Henceforth, he attended meetings and read God’s word with Yang Liu. Gradually, his heart was not possessed by Internet chat; even if his phone was installed WeChat again, it couldn’t lure his heart. Yang Liu even heard Xiang Ming blame the female net friend several times for pestering him. Through reading God’s word and fellowshiping the truth, Xiang Ming clearly understood that WeChat is a means by which Satan occupies his heart, breaks up his family and even drags him to hell. Meantime, he could distinguish the positive and negative things, and could also quiet his heart before God to seek the truth. The family being on the verge of breaking regained the former laughter and chatter at last. One day, when Yang Liu and Xiang Ming read God’s word together, they saw the following, “All that Satan does is perfectly clear and understood by God. No matter what Satan does, no matter what trend it causes to arise, God knows all that Satan is trying to do, and God does not give up on those He has chosen. Instead, without attracting any attention, secretly, silently, God does everything that is necessary. When He begins work on someone, when He has chosen someone, He does not proclaim it to anyone, nor does He proclaim it to Satan, much less make any grand gesture. He just very quietly, very naturally does what is necessary.” “Only God is the truth. God controls the heavens and earth and everything in them and has dominion over all. Not to believe in God, not to submit to God is to be unable to obtain truth. If you live according to God’s word, you will feel a clarity, stability, and incomparable sweetness in the depths of your heart; you will have truly obtained life.” Both of them understood that if they hadn’t been led and saved by God’s word, if they hadn’t come before God, their family would have broken apart. They truly felt that God’s love is too great and too real. Yang Liu said, “When I was in pain and confusion, it was God who opened my heart with His word and made me see through Satan’s harm to us, the ignorant, so that I could have some understanding of my husband due to hating Satan and no longer resented and complained to him and could release myself from pain. When I prayed to God wholeheartedly and was willing to commit my husband into His hand, it was the leading of God’s word that made him see through Satan’s schemes, come back before Him, and no longer follow the social evil trends or continually degenerate. In my personal experiences, I realized: God’s word is the truth, the way, and the life. God’s word can make us have a clear understanding, can let us gain discernment and see through various schemes and trickeries of Satan poisoning man. God’s word is our most powerful weapon of resisting the attack of evil trends. With God’s word in our hearts, we will never be fooled or harmed by Satan. Thank God for leading my husband and bringing him back to his senses, and thank God more for saving my family. All the glory be to God!” You may be interested in this article: God’s Words Brought Me Out of My Marriage Risk – Spiritual Awakening
When Zhiqiang and Linlin knew each other, both of them considered each other as their lifelong partner that they can entrust. Linlin was a college student at that time, so she told Zhiqiang she would marry him after she graduated. During that time, Zhiqiang’s family set their faces against their love relationship. They worried Linlin would break up with Zhiqiang. But Zhiqiang believed they were truly in love, and their love was impregnable. Zhiqiang’s family said resignedly: “You just walk one way to the end, and you will regret one day.” Linlin told Zhiqiang when she knew it: “I assure you, you are the only man I want to marry. No matter how hard life is, I’m willing to face any obstacle and stick it out with you.” Four-year long-distance love race finally ended. Linlin kept her promise when she graduated, she married Zhiqiang. They led a sweet life. The birth of their daughter brought a lot of joy to this family. When Zhiqiang came home after a busy day, Linlin would carry a basin of foot-bath water for him, she also prepared delicious dishes on the table. Zhiqiang gave all his mind to this home as well, he tried his best to provide everything his wife and child needed. Although their living condition was not good, and they also had difficulties, they all gave encourages, comfort and supports to each other. The family lived in peace and happiness. In 2012, Zhiqiang accepted the kingdom gospel of God, but he seldom attended meetings because of his busy work. One day, when Zhiqang came back home after work, Linlin consulted with him that she felt so lonely when she stayed at home during daytime, so she wanted to buy a smartphone to help the time pass. Zhiqiang agreed without hesitation. Since Linlin bought the phone, she couldn’t leave it all day long. There was no care to Zhiqiang as usual, no hot foot-bath water and no delicious dishes anymore, even less and less conversation with Zhiqiang. Sometimes Linlin gave him a cold shoulder when he was talking to her. Zhiqiang felt something wrong: Did she fall in love with other people? But when he thought back over the past ten years, Linlin bore hardship without complaints, and put her whole heart into this family, she shouldn’t do anything wrong to him, so Zhiqiang didn’t think too much about it. However, then Zhiqiang found there indeed was something wrong with his wife. Linlin put all the work away, and checked the phone in a hurry as soon as she got messages on Messenger. And she dodged deliberately in the bathroom, and chatted for half an hour every single time. Seeing her abnormal behavior, his mind was in a turmoil. He thought: Does she really cheat on me? I have to figure out what happened. Once Linlin went out for classmates reunion. She drank a lot of wine and she staggered back home. But she still chatted on Messenger attentively when she lay on the bed, and she was crying. Zhiqiang asked: “Why are you crying? Who are you chatting with? A man or a woman?” Linlin said, “A woman, nothing happened.” Zhiqiang grabbed the phone while Linlin was not paying attention, and she would wildly take the phone back. Zhiqiang avoided her and saw the dialogues in the phone. That guy said: “I know you love me so much, but my wife has already known our relationship …” Zhiqiang couldn’t keep looking. He flushed with anger and couldn’t control his emotion anymore. He raised his hand and gave her a slap across the face. This is the first time that Zhiqiang beat her. Linlin thought she was wrong, so she put her arms around her husband: “Please let me explain to you, we didn’t do any deviant behavior, we just chat casually, trust me!” Zhiqiang said angrily, “How can I believe in you? Can love be said casually to anyone? Don’t explain any more, our good life is over.” Linlin begged piteously to him, “Just forgive me this time, please.” Zhiqiang was in no mood for what she explained. He smashed the phone down on the concrete floor severely, yelling, “I’ll have you played more! I’ll have you played more!” The phone was broken immediately, and Zhiqiang’s heart was broken as well. Men only weep when deeply hurt. Zhiqiang couldn’t control the feeling of pain in his heart anymore when he knew his wife cheated on him. He shed tears, wondering: Why was their deep affection broken vulnerably? Why did his wife become like this? In the past, they helped and took care of each other when they had a bad living condition; now the living condition gets much better, but his wife cheats on him unexpectedly. In retrospect, Zhiqiang ignored parental objections and waited her for 4 years, he thought it would be an indestructible relationship. He never thought their relationship was broken just by Messenger. For the following several days, no matter how Linlin begged for Zhiqiang’s forgiveness, he couldn’t face the fact, living in pain and despair and losing the hope to this marriage completely. At this time, brothers and sisters came to Zhiqiang. They saw that his face creased up with sorrow, so they communicated that when the troubles and pains came to themselves, how they depended on God and how God’s words comforted and helped them out of the pains. Zhiqiang thought the communication of brothers and sisters were very actual, they all spoke their minds, and he was moving by that. He saw God’s actual love and mercy. So he opened his mind as well, pouring out his own bitterness in his heart to brothers and sisters. They comforted ZhiQiang, “Brother, don’t be too sad. Actually, human beings are all innocent. The degeneration of humanity is caused by Satan’s corruption. If we want to hate, we should hate Satan! Satan used evil trends to corrupt us. Especially, playing phones brings a lot of pain to many families. Let’s read some God’s words about this.” Then brothers and sisters read two passages of God’s words to him, “But to people, it seems like a world of gaiety and splendor, one that is becoming more and more so. When people look upon the world, their hearts are drawn to it, and many are unable to extricate themselves from it; great numbers will be beguiled by those who engage in trickery and sorcery. If you do not strive for progress, and are without ideals, you will be swept away by this sinful wave.” “We only wish to talk about the ideas that social trends bring about for people, the way they cause people to conduct themselves in the world, the life goals and outlook that they bring about in people. These are very important; they can control and influence man’s state of mind. One after another, all these trends carry an evil influence that continually degenerates man, that lowers their morals and their quality of character more and more, to the extent that we can even say the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. So what are these trends? You cannot see these trends with the naked eye. When the wind of a trend blows through, perhaps only a small number of people will become the trendsetters. They start off doing this kind of thing, accepting this kind of idea or this kind of perspective. The majority of people, however, in the midst of their unawareness, will still be continually infected, assimilated and attracted by this kind of trend, until they all unknowingly and involuntarily accept it, and are all submerged in and controlled by it. For man who is not of sound body and mind, who never knows what is truth, who cannot tell the difference between positive and negative things, these kinds of trends one after another make them all willingly accept these trends, the life view, the life philosophies and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them on how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them. They have not the strength, neither do they have the ability, much less the awareness to resist.” By looking at God’s word and listening to the communion of brothers and sisters, Zhiqiang’s locked eyebrows were gradually opened. He understood that those people who did not come to God were all fooled by Satan, living in the evil trends, and they didn’t have abilities to resist Satan’s temptations and distinguish between positive and negative things. Looking back to the past, his wife was a gentle, considerate and family-centered person, but since she became fascinated by Messenger, she has become another person. She became crazy about it all the time and didn’t have mind to do anything, only thought of the Messenger. She lost her sense of family responsibility for a long time, which led her to do unethical things. In fact, in the modern society, lots of happy families are broken in this way. Online chatting and online dating have caused more and more serious conflicts between family, and finally they ended in a divorce. Children also lost the warmth of the family and were physically and mentally harmed. At this time, Zhiqiang’s heart was relieved a lot, thinking: Yeah, my wife is also one of the victims who are corrupted by the evil trends. I am just too busy to spend time and energy on Messenger, otherwise, I am also likely to make the same mistake like my wife has done. At this point, Zhiqiang’s heart was full of gratitude to God. But for God’s mercy, and that God moved brothers and sisters in time to communicate God’s word with him, and help him know the reasons why his wife cheated on him and see through Satan’s means and the truth of corruption for people, he would certainly still live in the resentment of his wife, even couldn’t recover after a setback, his family would also be faced with being broken. Zhiqiang heartily thanked God for His true love and salvation. Since then, Zhiqiang actively participated in the meetings. In the word of God, he understood a lot of truths, his wounded heart was soothed for a little bit, and he forgave his wife completely. After Linlin had this bitter lesson, she was willing to repent, and return to the family. The family was restored to its usual stable and peaceful life again. Nowadays, Zhiqiang no longer believed in God with a sloppy attitude, but he devotes more time to communicate the word of God with brothers and sisters. Now he lives a fulfilling life every day.
During the caesarean section, I was in danger many times. Even the doctor could not help. It was God who showed me miracles time after time.
Pursuing romantic love caused her to complain about and nitpick at her husband for many years. She suffered unspeakably and nearly got divorced. Let’s see how God’s word made her gain the real happiness.