I Forgave My Husband Who Had Extramarital Affair!

By Jianchi, South Korea

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After my husband and I had been dating for five years in China, in 2012, we finally joined our lives together in matrimony in South Korea. I personally believed that I had found the true love and I was also full of the beautiful prospect of the future marriage life. Although he had nothing, I thought as long as he treated me well, that was enough and that we would get everything through our efforts later. After getting married, because I was pregnant, I returned home and lived together with my mother-in-law, leaving my husband earning money alone in South Korea. My in-laws were very nice and looked after me in every way. We got along with each other very well and the villagers were all envious of us, which made me even more certain that my choice was right: I married well. Moreover, I also imagined that after my child was born, my life would be more blissful and abundant.

In 2014, after my child’s first birthday, my husband brought my child and me to South Korea. Because my husband worked in another part of the country, he could only live in the dormitory. Thus, I went to the house of my parents, who were making a living in South Korea, and lived there. My husband only came back home a few times every month. For some reason, this time after I came to South Korea, I found that my husband was not the same as before: Regardless of answering the phone or playing with his phone, it seemed as if he was always avoiding me purposely; he didn’t talk with me as before, either; the former intimate feeling was gone. I couldn’t find out where it went wrong. I thought to myself: Maybe we have been separated too long. Or maybe his work made him so tired that he had some pressure. I continually alleged reasons to him to comfort myself, but my instinct told me that the truth was not like this. One day, I took the opportunity when he fell asleep to check his phone secretly, only to find that there was the ambiguous term “wife” in his chat logs. I couldn’t dare to believe that that was true and I also didn’t want to believe that. Then, I asked him what was going on. He acknowledged that he had found another woman outside and said that it happened when I was in China. At that moment, I collapsed, so I had a huge fight with him. My slumbering child woke up and then cried together with me. The sound of our cries disturbed my mother, who lived in the next room. After knowing what had happened, for fear that my child would be scared, she asked me to calm down, and then she also asked my husband what he was going to do next. He answered that he would break up with that woman. I said I couldn’t live with him anymore and that I wanted to divorce. My mother persuaded us to calm down and think carefully. The thought never crossed my mind that such matter would come upon me. I thought: We have been married for less than two years and moreover I married him when he had nothing. How could he treat me like this? I was unable to face his betrayal as if Heaven joked with me. Looking at my asleep child who was in shock, I felt my heart was about to break and thought: What about my child if we really divorced?

I Forgave My Husband Who Had Extramarital Affair!

Afterward, I cried every day and didn’t want to eat or sleep. The moment I saw him, I would think of the thing between he and that woman and my heart would be awfully choked. I didn’t know what I should do. I didn’t want to live in this way any longer because it was too tiring. I wanted to divorce. But after some inquiries, I learned that if we wanted to divorce, we had to return home because our marriage was registered in China. Seeing that both my husband and I became wan and sallow because of this matter, my mother told us to give some time to each other to consider carefully. During that period of time, I had thought of death, but when I saw my mother and my child, I lost the courage; I also thought of taking revenge on him: Give him a taste of betrayal by selling out myself, but I couldn’t do that; finally, all I could do was anesthetize myself by drinking, but this didn’t work at all. Seeing I tortured myself into a nervous wreck, my husband knelt before my mother, saying that he would never let me down again and asking me to give him one more chance. When I saw that he wore a stubbly beard and was haggard, my heart softened and I promised that I would give him another chance and make a fresh start with him.

In order to untie the knot in my heart, my husband took me to travel. Yet despite this, we already couldn’t return to the past. I didn’t trust him anymore and always lived in doubts. Every day I would check his phone. Later, after learning that he once brought that woman back home, I started to look for the traces everywhere in my house. Once I found something that didn’t belong to me, I would quarrel with him. My mouth said that I was willing to start afresh, but I couldn’t do that. I became more and more suspicious about him so that I would even check his car carefully. Seeing this, he wanted me to see a psychotherapist, but I retorted him quite angrily. In fact, I knew the fault lay with me and I also didn’t want to doubt him. But his betrayal had been the most difficult experience of my life, and the second I thought of this, I would rankle, being always addicted on living in pain. When I talked with my mother about this thing, she was unable to solve it; when I wanted to talk with my friend, I was unable to speak of it for the sake of protecting my face. In this way, I lived muddling along for half a year.

One day, I met a woman holding a child beside my mother’s home. Unexpectedly, she was also an overseas compatriot. We exchanged our phone number and often visited each other and chat when we were free. Later, after learning that I believed that God exists, she brought two sisters to come to visit me and preach the gospel to me. They fellowshiped with me, “Nowadays the worldly trends become more and more evil; people also become more and more corrupt, just like people in Noah’s day. They all pursue life’s pleasure and indulge their own flesh; there are full of violence and deceit between them and even couples also betray each other without true love. Because we are corrupted by Satan, we are unable to overcome all kinds of enticements and temptations if we have no truth. All that we can do is be sucked deeper and deeper into the evil trends, struggle hard and painfully in sin, and be corrupted and distorted by Satan so that we have no human-likeness and completely lose the integrity and self-respect. There is no happiness to speak of at all. Therefore, after the Lord Jesus accomplished the work of redeeming mankind through being nailed to the cross, in the last days, He once again becomes flesh to perform the work of judging and purifying mankind. Through expressing the truth, He leads us to free ourselves from Satan’s corruption and thoroughly saves us from Satan’s domain so that we can live in the kingdom without evil and pain. If we don’t come before God to accept His salvation, we can only be harmed and fooled by Satan, living painfully and having no path to solution.”

After hearing their fellowship, I especially yearned for the days without pain. At the same time, I also understood that it was because the evil and darkness of society that I was so upset. Thinking carefully, we people have been surely corrupt: We all don’t keep our promises; at first when a man and a woman fall in love, they swear to the end of the world, but the promises will soon become lies. Nowadays, that men have other women outside occurs quite frequently and no one casts aside it. There are no sincere feelings between people and they only pursue to satisfy their desires of their own flesh. Now, I came to know that all of these were the results of Satan corrupting man. I didn’t want to live such painful days anymore and I hoped I could receive God’s salvation. So, I decided to know more about God’s work in the last days.

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When I went out to wave them off, I glanced up at the sky, the sun fervent and high. I, living in darkness all along, seemed to feel the light and the long-forgotten happiness. After that, I formally attended meetings. Through listening to the brothers and sisters fellowshiping God’s words in the meetings, I understood all aspects of the truth such as how people should believe in God, the meaning and value of life and God’s management plan to save mankind. I felt very fulfilled in my heart. Afterward, every day, I would read God’s words and pray to Him. When I was praying, I seemed as if I had many words to say to God every day. Gradually, my heart was no longer so painful and I had less medley of thoughts than before. I was very happy that I finally found the support in my heart.

In a meeting, I read God’s words: “I very much appreciate those who harbor no suspicion about others and very much like those who readily accept the truth; to these two kinds of men I show great care, for in My eyes they are the honest. If you are very cunning, then you will have a guarded heart and thoughts of suspicion regarding all matters and all men” (“How to Know the God on Earth”). Reading that passage, an idea flashed through my mind: Do these words not refer to me? I live in doubt and suspicion every day, always feeling that my husband was doing something behind me. He explained every time and actively gave me his phone to let me check, but I still didn’t believe and couldn’t help but secretly check his phone and car. From God’s words, I understood that God doesn’t like my such behaviors and they were all that of treacherous people. I myself also could feel always suspecting others was so tiring. From then on, when I suspected my husband again, I would pray to God, “O God, I started to suspect him again. What You like are honest people. I know my behaviors are not in accordance with Your will, but I am unable to control myself and always live in suspicion. I beg You to lead me!” After my prayer, I was much calmer. I felt very happy, feeling that through praying to God like this, I surely saw God’s guidance. I also had the courage to overcome the environment. Thank God!

One day, my husband stayed out all night, which agitated my calm heart again. I called him all night but he didn’t answer. I began to suspect him again; I tossed and turned in bed and could not fall asleep or control my heart, feeling very painful. In helplessness, I came before God and prayed to Him, “O God! I really want to be an honest person and don’t want to be controlled by suspicion all day long. But I can’t do that. O God! I beg You to help me out of pain.” When I was just praying to God, I suddenly remembered a passage of God’s words, “In every step of work that God does within people, externally it appears to be interactions between people, as if born of human arrangements, or from human interference. But behind the scenes, every step of work, and everything that happens, is a wager made by Satan before God, and requires people to stand firm in their testimony to God. Take when Job was tried, for example: Behind the scenes, Satan was making a bet with God, and what happened to Job was the deeds of men, and the interference of men. Behind every step that God does in you is Satan’s wager with God—behind it all is a battle” (“Only Loving God Is Truly Believing in God”). God’s words allowed me to realize: Now, it is a spiritual fight. Satan is using this thing to toy with me, causing me to suspect my husband and live in pain. However, God is also watching my heart and seeing whether I can practice His words and defeat Satan’s temptation. Satan wants to use this thing to harm me, so I have to choose to satisfy God’s will and can’t be fooled by it. If my husband has really done something to betray me, no matter how upset I am, what use will it be? If my husband is really bestowed upon me by God, then nobody can snatch him; if not, even if I watch him every day, I can’t keep him. I will give everything to God! When I thought like this, I fell asleep unknowingly.

The second day after I got up, I started to worry if he had an accident. With a deeply uneasy heart, I called him. He ashamedly said that he drank too much when he was with his clients last night and then slept at a hotel so that he didn’t call me. What’s more, he said he was sorry. Hearing his explanation, I felt that my suspicion was all unnecessary and simply Satan’s trickery and harm. It was just because I was too weak that I couldn’t overcome my flesh. But when I relied on God, He would comfort my heart, let me calm down and moreover reveal the truth, which made me have more faith to practice according to His words.

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After this event, I quieted my heart and thought carefully again. Before, I personally thought that I had found the true love. Not until now did I see that the love between my husband and me was so fragile that it could easily collapse. I personally thought that I had paid much and I married him when he had nothing, so I thought it was deserved that he treated me well and that he couldn’t do anything that wasn’t right. When he betrayed me, I just couldn’t accept it, thinking: I have never disdained you, but you actually dared to treat me like this. Even if he apologized and repented, I was estranged from him all the time and unable to believe him, living in suspicion and pain. I had seen that my love for him also had impurities and conditions. Now, I should look at it from another perspective: Now, if he still remains connected to that woman and hobnobs with her, then it will be forgivable that I suspect and guard against him; but this event has passed so long and he also no longer interacts with that woman, so I need to learn to forgive him and I shouldn’t live in suspicion all long, which not only afflicts myself but harms others. As a matter of fact, my husband is also a victim. That he overstepped the bounds is the result of Satan’s corruption. Just as God’s word says, “Satan uses these social trends to lure people one step at a time into a nest of devils, so that people caught up in social trends unknowingly advocate money and material desires, as well as advocate wickedness and violence. Once these things have entered man’s heart, what then does man become? Man becomes the devil Satan! This is because of what psychological leaning in the heart of man? What does man advocate? Man begins to like wickedness and violence. They do not like beauty or goodness, much less peace. People are not willing to live the simple life of normal humanity, but instead wish to enjoy high status and great wealth, to revel in the pleasures of the flesh, sparing no effort to satisfy their own flesh, with no restrictions, no bonds to hold them back, in other words doing whatever they desire. … In this way, man becomes more and more what? More and more evil, arrogant, condescending, selfish, and malicious. There is no longer any affection between people, no longer any love between family members, no longer any understanding between relatives and friends; human relations have become full of cheating, full of violence” (“God Himself, the Unique VI”). Satan just uses the evil trends to seduce and corrupt man. Now, having affairs, being a mistress for a rich man and having a concubine all become trends and many people are swept up in them. They fall into all kinds of enticements and temptations, can’t extricate themselves, and can only sin involuntarily, becoming increasingly degenerated and evil. The reason why my husband overstepped the bounds was because he was also involuntary. What was remarkable was that he didn’t degenerate thoroughly nor did he abandon our family. So, I should open my heart and start afresh with my life. At that time, my heart was set free, which made me even more feel grateful to God. If God had not saved me, my marriage would surely not have been maintained, and I could not have forgiven my husband at all and could only have lived under endless suffering and been tortured. I really dared not imagine what I would be in the end.

Experiencing several ruffles, I put my suspicion about my husband down through praying to God again and again. Under the guidance of God’s words, I learned to stand in another’s shoes, and I revealed less and less suspicion. I no longer checked his phone secretly or asked his movements and the home atmosphere was no longer embarrassed and grim. Once, when our family dined, my husband said to them significantly, “She has changed!” Hearing his such approval, I knew it was God’s word that changed me and allowed me to live out the manner of a proper person. Thank God for allowing me to get over my husband’s betrayal, and saving my family from breaking apart. All the glory be to Almighty God!

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By Liu Tao Yang Liu and Xiang Ming got married through a matchmaker’s introduction. After marriage, though their life was not rich, Xiang Ming showed the utmost care and consideration for Yang Liu. When Yang Liu did the cooking, Xiang Ming was always her assistant. When going outside to stroll through streets or going shopping, they all went along with each other. The neighbors who saw them all said, “I find that you come everywhere in pairs. You are really an affectionate couple.” Yang Liu also thought that Xiang Ming was her closest confidant and was her lifetime reliance. After they had their lovely son, their family was even more filled with joy and they lived a steady and happy life. When their relative preached the gospel to them, their whole family all believed in the Lord Jesus. Later on, Yang Liu had the privilege of accepting God’s work of the last days. In the same year, they built a spacious and bright house. Xiang Ming didn’t accept God’s work of the last days, but he supported Yang Liu to believe in God, so their relationship was still enviable. However, not long after Xiang Ming worked in a grain and oil processing factory, Yang Liu found that he was a little different from the past. Several times, when they walked together, as soon as his phone rang, he would move away to answer it. Yang Liu guessed: Does Xiang Ming have the unfaithful intentions when he works outside? But when thinking that he treated her very well all the time and had paid a great price for the family, she considered he wouldn’t do that. Although she thought like this, she was still a little worried. Once, a message was sent to his phone as Xiang Ming fell asleep. Because of his abnormal changes, Yang Liu couldn’t help but read the message. It was sent by a female WeChat friend. She replied, “Would you be able to not chat with my husband?” But she never imagined that the female WeChat friend said, “It is not up to me. You should ask your husband. We chatted very happily! You’d better dominate your husband!” Yang Liu was filled with anger at the sight of that, so she turned her husband’s phone off. The next day, she warned Xiang Ming not to chat with female WeChat friends any more. He didn’t refute her, but he began to avoid her. When at home, he always finished meals at the fastest speed, and then looked for an excuse and went to other places to chat with the female net friends. One time, Yang Liu asked Xiang Ming in resentment, “Do you still want the family? Is playing WeChat to talk with female net friends important or am I important? Unexpectedly, he answered coldly, “The female net friends are more important. Now it is Internet age. Who doesn’t do like this, broadening connections and making friends with others? This is fashion!” Hearing her husband’s cold words, Yang Liu seemed to not know him who had lived with herself for over twenty years. Feelings of sorrow and desolation welled up in her heart. At that moment, she felt herself would be faint with anger. She thought about divorcing and leaving the home. But at the thought of her son needing a perfect family, she had to swallow it all up. From then on, Yang Liu and Xiang Ming separately lived in the eastern and western rooms. Though living under the same roof, they were like strangers. The happy family lost the former warmth and peace. Yang Liu felt agonized and stressful in her heart. She didn’t understand why Xiang Ming could become such a person now—a completely different person from before. With sorrow and distress, she could only pray and cry out to God over and over. One day, she saw these words of God, “One after another, all these trends carry an evil influence that continually degenerates man, that lowers their morals and their quality of character more and more, to the extent that we can even say the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. … For man who is not of sound body and mind, who never knows what is truth, who cannot tell the difference between positive and negative things, these kinds of trends one after another make them all willingly accept these trends, the life view, the life philosophies and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them on how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them. They have not the strength, neither do they have the ability, much less the awareness to resist.” From God’s word, she understood: It was because of the influence of web and trends that her husband became like this and could say those words having no regard for their feelings as husband and wife. Thinking back, her husband was fairly fond of her, cherished and cared for their family very much, and had the sense of responsibility. But from the time when he worked in the grain and oil processing factory, under the influence of his colleagues and environment, he became obsessed with chatting on WeChat, always having his phone in his hands. He was deeply addicted to it and unable to extricate himself, totally neglecting their family, her or their son at all. Through the revelation of God’s word, Yang Liu understood: The culprit that have destroyed the happiness of their family is the evil influence brought by the social evil trends, is the WeChat app which occupies her husband’s heart every day, but not her husband, as he is just an innocent and pitiful victim. At that point, she didn’t resent him that much. She resolved to rely on God to fight the battle against satanic evil trends, bringing Xiang Ming back from the claws of Satan. By praying to God and relying on Him, she didn’t give Xiang Ming the cold shoulder as before. She began to speak with him from the heart actively and often read God’s word for him, talked about the harm that social trends bring to man and fellowshiped God’s will of saving man. Seeing the changes of Yang Liu’s attitude, Xiang Ming was able to sit down and had a heart-to-heart talk with her. One day, Yang Liu read two passages of God’s words to Xiang Ming, “The devil Satan does these things in order to lure people, to cause them to degenerate. For those who live in virtual worlds, they have no interest whatsoever in anything to do with the life of normal humanity; they are not in the mood to work or study. They are only concerned about going to virtual worlds, as though they are being enticed by something.” “So within an environment, whatever this environment instills in you, you then become; whatever it instills in you, you then obtain; however it controls you and leads you, in the end you become that kind of person. A man can become someone who is degenerate, evil, and bad in the extreme, and these things are what are brought to him by his environment. So who is the manipulator who controls this environment? What is its nature? … You become like this, and you don’t know when the change began, you’re unclear about it. You’re unclear on how this change has happened. Anyway, you have become who you are today. You don’t know how on earth you came to be this way, you’re unclear about why you took this path in the beginning, unclear about why you have now become like this; in short, you came to be this way in a state of confusion. This is the process of Satan’s corruption of man, and it is the method it uses, and people are therefore corrupted and degenerated in this way.” Yang Liu fellowshiped, “Xiang Ming, you were not like this before. You treated me well, treated our son well and also loved the family very much. But since you are addicted to chatting on WeChat, you have no longer taken care of son and me, and even sometimes you can’t hear me when I talked to you. Moreover, you have lost the normal life. I found that you didn’t know whether you were full when you ate meals, and just gorged some food and then went outside the dining room to play WeChat. You were also not in the mood to work, but were preoccupied with chatting online as well as those female net friends all day. It proves that you have been controlled by the evil trends. Xiang Ming, you seek temporary excitement and comfort when chatting with them, but have you given thought to this? Can chatting on the web really bring you happiness? Can you rely on chatting with these female net friends to spend the rest of your life? Looking around, how many families have broken up because of one side’s chatting online. Some women abandoned their husbands and children and ran off with male net friends; some men left their wives and children for female net friends and involved with them. Aren’t these tragedies caused by the evil trends raised up by Satan?We don’t have the truth and can’t see through Satan’s trickery, but today God’s word has revealed all the treacherous intentions of Satan. Satan is just using the Internet to tempt and corrupt us and make us live in passions and lusts, and enjoy the pleasure of sins so that it can reach its objective to devour us and make us perish together with it in the end. So, we can’t be fooled by Satan!” Hearing God’s word and Yang Liu’s fellowship, Xiang Ming felt very frightened and guilty. He said firmly, “Yang Liu, in the past, I thought people all did like this. It was not very serious. I even thought you were petty and made a fuss with me. Not until today do I understand this is Satan corrupting me. It wants to drag me to hell! It’s really the case. Sometimes I also knew it was not good to chat with net friends, which had influenced our feeling as husband and wife, and made me lose the sense of responsibility to our family. Especially when I saw you unhappy, I felt sad, too. And many time I have told myself never again to access WeChat, but I just couldn’t control my heart. Now I understand, this is Satan using online chats to deceive me and harm me. From now on, I can’t fall into Satan’s trickery any more. I will bring my mind back, and no longer indulge in WeChat. Let’s live well anew!” Hearing Xiang Ming’s words, Yang Liu felt warm in her heart and was greatly comforted. In order to prove his sincerity of repentance, Xiang Ming uninstalled the WeChat before Yang Liu. However, a week later, Yang Liu found Xiang Ming’s received WeChat messages on his phone again. When she questioned Xiang Ming, his face flushed scarlet. He promised her that he would no longer go on WeChat, and threw his phone into the burning cooking stove to prove his resolve of cutting off relations with those female net friends. Yang Liu realized the evil trends had poisoned Xiang Ming too deeply and she could only pray to God urgently, asking God to lead him to forsake the temptation of the evil trends and regain the life of a normal man. Later, when a sister of the church came to Yang Liu’s home to attend the meeting, she also communicated with Xiang Ming. They read two passages of God’s word, “Once these things are established in your mind, once they are stuck in your heart, it is just like a spell…. They influence your life, your outlook on life and they also influence your judgment of things. Even more so they influence your pursuit for the true path of life: This is indeed a spell! You try but you cannot shake them off; you chop at them but you cannot chop them down; you beat at them but you cannot beat them down. Is this not so? (Yes.)” “‘Satan uses so many different ways to corrupt man. It seizes every opportunity and is everywhere we turn. Can man still be saved?’ Is there still any hope for mankind? Can man save themselves? (No.) Can the Jade Emperor save man? Can Confucius save man? Can Guanyin Bodhisattva save man? (No.) So who can save man? (God.)” The sister fellowshiped, “Faced with Satan’s evil trends, if we rely on our own willpower to change that, it won’t do. We should rely on God with sincerity. And if we devote our mind to something serious, to seeking the truth, Satan won’t be able to sway our heart any more, because if we read more God’s word, we would be able to understand some truths and differentiate the evil trends of Satan, and then we will hate them naturally and will not be addicted to them and be deceived by them. As long as we rely on God, His word can resolve all our problems.” Xiang Ming made a deep nod. Henceforth, he attended meetings and read God’s word with Yang Liu. Gradually, his heart was not possessed by Internet chat; even if his phone was installed WeChat again, it couldn’t lure his heart. Yang Liu even heard Xiang Ming blame the female net friend several times for pestering him. Through reading God’s word and fellowshiping the truth, Xiang Ming clearly understood that WeChat is a means by which Satan occupies his heart, breaks up his family and even drags him to hell. Meantime, he could distinguish the positive and negative things, and could also quiet his heart before God to seek the truth. The family being on the verge of breaking regained the former laughter and chatter at last. One day, when Yang Liu and Xiang Ming read God’s word together, they saw the following, “All that Satan does is perfectly clear and understood by God. No matter what Satan does, no matter what trend it causes to arise, God knows all that Satan is trying to do, and God does not give up on those He has chosen. Instead, without attracting any attention, secretly, silently, God does everything that is necessary. When He begins work on someone, when He has chosen someone, He does not proclaim it to anyone, nor does He proclaim it to Satan, much less make any grand gesture. He just very quietly, very naturally does what is necessary.” “Only God is the truth. God controls the heavens and earth and everything in them and has dominion over all. Not to believe in God, not to submit to God is to be unable to obtain truth. If you live according to God’s word, you will feel a clarity, stability, and incomparable sweetness in the depths of your heart; you will have truly obtained life.” Both of them understood that if they hadn’t been led and saved by God’s word, if they hadn’t come before God, their family would have broken apart. They truly felt that God’s love is too great and too real. Yang Liu said, “When I was in pain and confusion, it was God who opened my heart with His word and made me see through Satan’s harm to us, the ignorant, so that I could have some understanding of my husband due to hating Satan and no longer resented and complained to him and could release myself from pain. When I prayed to God wholeheartedly and was willing to commit my husband into His hand, it was the leading of God’s word that made him see through Satan’s schemes, come back before Him, and no longer follow the social evil trends or continually degenerate. In my personal experiences, I realized: God’s word is the truth, the way, and the life. God’s word can make us have a clear understanding, can let us gain discernment and see through various schemes and trickeries of Satan poisoning man. God’s word is our most powerful weapon of resisting the attack of evil trends. With God’s word in our hearts, we will never be fooled or harmed by Satan. Thank God for leading my husband and bringing him back to his senses, and thank God more for saving my family. All the glory be to God!” You may be interested in this article: God’s Words Brought Me Out of My Marriage Risk – Spiritual Awakening

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When Zhiqiang and Linlin knew each other, both of them considered each other as their lifelong partner that they can entrust. Linlin was a college student at that time, so she told Zhiqiang she would marry him after she graduated. During that time, Zhiqiang’s family set their faces against their love relationship. They worried Linlin would break up with Zhiqiang. But Zhiqiang believed they were truly in love, and their love was impregnable. Zhiqiang’s family said resignedly: “You just walk one way to the end, and you will regret one day.” Linlin told Zhiqiang when she knew it: “I assure you, you are the only man I want to marry. No matter how hard life is, I’m willing to face any obstacle and stick it out with you.” Four-year long-distance love race finally ended. Linlin kept her promise when she graduated, she married Zhiqiang. They led a sweet life. The birth of their daughter brought a lot of joy to this family. When Zhiqiang came home after a busy day, Linlin would carry a basin of foot-bath water for him, she also prepared delicious dishes on the table. Zhiqiang gave all his mind to this home as well, he tried his best to provide everything his wife and child needed. Although their living condition was not good, and they also had difficulties, they all gave encourages, comfort and supports to each other. The family lived in peace and happiness. In 2012, Zhiqiang accepted the kingdom gospel of God, but he seldom attended meetings because of his busy work. One day, when Zhiqang came back home after work, Linlin consulted with him that she felt so lonely when she stayed at home during daytime, so she wanted to buy a smartphone to help the time pass. Zhiqiang agreed without hesitation. Since Linlin bought the phone, she couldn’t leave it all day long. There was no care to Zhiqiang as usual, no hot foot-bath water and no delicious dishes anymore, even less and less conversation with Zhiqiang. Sometimes Linlin gave him a cold shoulder when he was talking to her. Zhiqiang felt something wrong: Did she fall in love with other people? But when he thought back over the past ten years, Linlin bore hardship without complaints, and put her whole heart into this family, she shouldn’t do anything wrong to him, so Zhiqiang didn’t think too much about it. However, then Zhiqiang found there indeed was something wrong with his wife. Linlin put all the work away, and checked the phone in a hurry as soon as she got messages on Messenger. And she dodged deliberately in the bathroom, and chatted for half an hour every single time. Seeing her abnormal behavior, his mind was in a turmoil. He thought: Does she really cheat on me? I have to figure out what happened. Once Linlin went out for classmates reunion. She drank a lot of wine and she staggered back home. But she still chatted on Messenger attentively when she lay on the bed, and she was crying. Zhiqiang asked: “Why are you crying? Who are you chatting with? A man or a woman?” Linlin said, “A woman, nothing happened.” Zhiqiang grabbed the phone while Linlin was not paying attention, and she would wildly take the phone back. Zhiqiang avoided her and saw the dialogues in the phone. That guy said: “I know you love me so much, but my wife has already known our relationship …” Zhiqiang couldn’t keep looking. He flushed with anger and couldn’t control his emotion anymore. He raised his hand and gave her a slap across the face. This is the first time that Zhiqiang beat her. Linlin thought she was wrong, so she put her arms around her husband: “Please let me explain to you, we didn’t do any deviant behavior, we just chat casually, trust me!” Zhiqiang said angrily, “How can I believe in you? Can love be said casually to anyone? Don’t explain any more, our good life is over.” Linlin begged piteously to him, “Just forgive me this time, please.” Zhiqiang was in no mood for what she explained. He smashed the phone down on the concrete floor severely, yelling, “I’ll have you played more! I’ll have you played more!” The phone was broken immediately, and Zhiqiang’s heart was broken as well. Men only weep when deeply hurt. Zhiqiang couldn’t control the feeling of pain in his heart anymore when he knew his wife cheated on him. He shed tears, wondering: Why was their deep affection broken vulnerably? Why did his wife become like this? In the past, they helped and took care of each other when they had a bad living condition; now the living condition gets much better, but his wife cheats on him unexpectedly. In retrospect, Zhiqiang ignored parental objections and waited her for 4 years, he thought it would be an indestructible relationship. He never thought their relationship was broken just by Messenger. For the following several days, no matter how Linlin begged for Zhiqiang’s forgiveness, he couldn’t face the fact, living in pain and despair and losing the hope to this marriage completely. At this time, brothers and sisters came to Zhiqiang. They saw that his face creased up with sorrow, so they communicated that when the troubles and pains came to themselves, how they depended on God and how God’s words comforted and helped them out of the pains. Zhiqiang thought the communication of brothers and sisters were very actual, they all spoke their minds, and he was moving by that. He saw God’s actual love and mercy. So he opened his mind as well, pouring out his own bitterness in his heart to brothers and sisters. They comforted ZhiQiang, “Brother, don’t be too sad. Actually, human beings are all innocent. The degeneration of humanity is caused by Satan’s corruption. If we want to hate, we should hate Satan! Satan used evil trends to corrupt us. Especially, playing phones brings a lot of pain to many families. Let’s read some God’s words about this.” Then brothers and sisters read two passages of God’s words to him, “But to people, it seems like a world of gaiety and splendor, one that is becoming more and more so. When people look upon the world, their hearts are drawn to it, and many are unable to extricate themselves from it; great numbers will be beguiled by those who engage in trickery and sorcery. If you do not strive for progress, and are without ideals, you will be swept away by this sinful wave.” “We only wish to talk about the ideas that social trends bring about for people, the way they cause people to conduct themselves in the world, the life goals and outlook that they bring about in people. These are very important; they can control and influence man’s state of mind. One after another, all these trends carry an evil influence that continually degenerates man, that lowers their morals and their quality of character more and more, to the extent that we can even say the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. So what are these trends? You cannot see these trends with the naked eye. When the wind of a trend blows through, perhaps only a small number of people will become the trendsetters. They start off doing this kind of thing, accepting this kind of idea or this kind of perspective. The majority of people, however, in the midst of their unawareness, will still be continually infected, assimilated and attracted by this kind of trend, until they all unknowingly and involuntarily accept it, and are all submerged in and controlled by it. For man who is not of sound body and mind, who never knows what is truth, who cannot tell the difference between positive and negative things, these kinds of trends one after another make them all willingly accept these trends, the life view, the life philosophies and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them on how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them. They have not the strength, neither do they have the ability, much less the awareness to resist.” By looking at God’s word and listening to the communion of brothers and sisters, Zhiqiang’s locked eyebrows were gradually opened. He understood that those people who did not come to God were all fooled by Satan, living in the evil trends, and they didn’t have abilities to resist Satan’s temptations and distinguish between positive and negative things. Looking back to the past, his wife was a gentle, considerate and family-centered person, but since she became fascinated by Messenger, she has become another person. She became crazy about it all the time and didn’t have mind to do anything, only thought of the Messenger. She lost her sense of family responsibility for a long time, which led her to do unethical things. In fact, in the modern society, lots of happy families are broken in this way. Online chatting and online dating have caused more and more serious conflicts between family, and finally they ended in a divorce. Children also lost the warmth of the family and were physically and mentally harmed. At this time, Zhiqiang’s heart was relieved a lot, thinking: Yeah, my wife is also one of the victims who are corrupted by the evil trends. I am just too busy to spend time and energy on Messenger, otherwise, I am also likely to make the same mistake like my wife has done. At this point, Zhiqiang’s heart was full of gratitude to God. But for God’s mercy, and that God moved brothers and sisters in time to communicate God’s word with him, and help him know the reasons why his wife cheated on him and see through Satan’s means and the truth of corruption for people, he would certainly still live in the resentment of his wife, even couldn’t recover after a setback, his family would also be faced with being broken. Zhiqiang heartily thanked God for His true love and salvation. Since then, Zhiqiang actively participated in the meetings. In the word of God, he understood a lot of truths, his wounded heart was soothed for a little bit, and he forgave his wife completely. After Linlin had this bitter lesson, she was willing to repent, and return to the family. The family was restored to its usual stable and peaceful life again. Nowadays, Zhiqiang no longer believed in God with a sloppy attitude, but he devotes more time to communicate the word of God with brothers and sisters. Now he lives a fulfilling life every day.

2017-11-20 17:30:36

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