Years of Grudge Against In-laws Disappeared

By Jinshen

It was 10 p.m. After a long day at work, Minghui was lying on the bed but couldn’t sleep. Her neighbor’s words this afternoon came to her mind: “Minghui, I’ve seen your father-in-law give his bank card and payroll card to your elder brother-in-law.” On hearing that, she thought serenely: Those are Father-in-law’s, so it’s his call. Years of Grudge Against In-laws DisappearedBut now, she grew more and more angry: Isn’t my husband their son? Why do my in-laws always favor their elder son over us? Fighting for house property many years, I just got 10,000 yuan. But now, they give the bank card and payroll card to their elder son. Elder brother and his wife doesn’t work but are afforded parents’ special treatment. My husband and I worked hard but didn’t get their care… It really wound her up when she recalled these matters. Minghui felt so suppressed that she was in torment. She was dying to go seek justice.

Over a decade ago, Minghui’s husband had a car accident before their marriage. Unfortunately, he had a disability of his legs. In addition to 19,000 yuan paid by the driver, her in-laws spent another 24,000-yuan buying this house where the whole family lived. So competitive was she that she ran business like crazy with her husband after marriage, while her elder brother-in-law couple didn’t do anything but played mah-jongg all day long. But her in-laws turned a blind eye to them, sometimes, and even took their side. Minghui was fed up with them, so she decided to buy another house to move out.

She never forgot what happened during her pregnancy. One day, she and her husband were tired and hungry after work. She thought she would eat hot food on getting home and take a break. It never occurred to her that Father-in-law, and brother-in-law couple were playing mah-jongg, and Mother-in-law stood watching them. She became extremely angry when she saw it, thinking: I, sporting a baby bump, have to work with my husband to support the family, while they even don’t make dinner. Why do they always treat us like this? Minghui nagged her mother-in-law with anger. And then brother-in-law beat her and warned her not to nag mother. From then on, Minghui had a grudge against her brother-in-law and never forgave him.

When her in-laws knew her couple were ready to buy another house, they wanted to leave this house to her brother-in-law. Minghui choked with rage: What? How can such a thing be possible? Almost half of the property belongs to us. Brother couple didn’t spend a dime buying this house. They want this house? No way! Minghui was very dissatisfied with this decision and felt that their parents played favorites with their elder son. She couldn’t let it go so she made up her mind: Never move out even if I buy a new house. They fell out for couple of days, but went nowhere. Because Minghui refused to give around, Father-in-law said that they must offer 60,000 yuan if they still wanted this house. Minghui couple were strapped for cash because they bought a new house not long ago. Now, Father-in-law came up with such steep condition to plainly make her give in. Minghui asked for 30,000 yuan if they moved out. But, her father-in-law said: “You’ve got to move out, whether you wanna or not! Or else, I’ll lock your door!” Fight for this house, Minghui was on bad terms with her family.

After two years, in-laws offered Minghui 10,000 yuan and asked them to move out, but the property price was about 80,000 yuan. She and her husband worked before dawn and after dark to buy a new house. Years of Grudge Against In-laws Disappeared Why could her brother-in-law get this house without any efforts, much less half the money was her husband’s damages in car accident? Minghui was reluctant to accept it, feeling it was unfair. In addition, the neighbor gave a support to Minghui, so she felt all the more that it was her in-laws’ fault. They not only had been at war with each other, but also gave each other the silent treatment. They became enemies. Later, Minghui couldn’t put up with living together with them, so she accepted 10,000 yuan from parents. From then on, she was keeping her in-laws at arm’s length.

In late 2010, Minghui was so honored to accept God’s end-time work. By reading God’s words and fellowshiping with brothers and sisters, Minghui saw that all the brothers and sisters were purely open and got along with each other without any trouble and worry. Whatever difficulties they have in life, they could help each other and all wear a smile. Minghui genuinely yearned for such life. Compared with them, she had no idea why she lived in such pain. Later, she read God’s word, “Before he was corrupted by Satan, man naturally followed God and obeyed His words. He was naturally of sound sense and conscience, and of normal humanity. After being corrupted by Satan, his original sense, conscience, and humanity grew dull and were impaired by Satan…” (“To Have an Unchanged Disposition Is to Be in Enmity to God”). After reading these words, she was in for a rude awakening: her pain comes from Satan’s corruption. Man should be of sense and conscience, but after being corrupted by Satan, his original sense and conscience has gone. Living by corrupt satanic disposition for generation after generation, man is so selfish and despicable, only interested in personal gain and considering his own profit. Still more, everyone likes to take advantage of others and has their own ulterior motives for everything, which causes people cannot get along with each other. Even in a family, they still get into a fight for selfish gain and become deadly enemies. At this moment, Minghui thought: Many years she and her family led a resentful life because they were selfish and base, fighting for their own interests. Brother-in-law thought they should occupy this old house because Minghui had a new one. And her in-laws took brother’s side when Minghui argued with them. However, Minghui believed that this old house should belong to them because of her husband’s damages from car accident. Hence, they had been fighting for over decade and neither of them backed down. Minghui came to realize: Living in this world Satan rules, man can’t relate well to each other. Without God’s salvation, she can’t escape from suffering. She was eager to get along famously with family and lead a normal life. Then, Minghui attended meetings actively, reading God’s words and pursing the truth.

One day, she read a passage of words in “Fellowship and Preaching About Life Entry”, “Normal humanity includes these aspects: conscience, sense, character and dignity … tolerance, patience, forgiveness, love, giving, kindness, benevolence, filial piety, forbearance, consideration, empathy and care… At this time, you will discover that you do not have humanity, and your humanity is flawed. You aren’t even possessed of normal humanity. You thought you were a good man and could get along well with everyone. But now, you find that you can’t relate well to anyone. No wonder you often fight with your partner, fight with your children, fight with your parents-in-law, and even fight with everyone else. You always quarrel with others, never ending. And then you’ll find the root of the problem is that you’re without normal humanity.” After reading, Minghui remembered that the reason why her brother-in-law once beat her is that she didn’t respect her in-laws. She shouldn’t resent him as she indeed did something wrong. Besides, though her brother-in-law had no decent work, he was also our family member. Her in-laws didn’t have the heart to watch their son have nowhere to live, so they wanted to leave the old house to brother. This was human nature. But she didn’t stand in their shoes — to understand parents’ concern for children, to consider brother-in-law couple’s situation. She realized that she only took her interests into account. To get this house, she would rather stay with them than move to the new house. Many years, Minghui thought she was unjustly treated. But now, she came to know that she was always living by Satan’s life principle, “Fight for every inch of land and seize every bit you can get”. To protect her profit, she wouldn’t give an inch. When her family were unkind to her, she wanted to go tit for tat and treated them as enemies. Because of the property, she cut loose from old ties. When seeing that she had been playing a seamy role these years, Minghui gradually let go of grudges against her family.

Minghui thought she has got over the grudges of the past, but neighbor’s words made her recall that her in-laws were so unfair to her. A feeling of resentment welled up in her heart again.

Thinking of that, Minghui got up and opened a book. God’s words say, “In every step of work that God does within people, externally it appears to be interactions between people, as if born of human arrangements, or from human interference. But behind the scenes, every step of work, and everything that happens, is a wager made by Satan before God, and requires people to stand firm in their testimony to God” (“Only Loving God Is Truly Believing in God”). God’s words woke her up again. The thing that happened today was a spiritual war. If she couldn’t live by God’s words but still fought for profit, she would be drawn into family dispute again. Minghui saw through Satan’s scheme according to God’s words. She prayed to God, asking Him to give her strength and confidence, so that she could live out normal humanity, no more contend for profit and be petty.

Years of Grudge Against In-laws Disappeared

After praying, Minghui read a passage of fellowship, “To coexist normally with other people, there should be several principles for us to practice: We should not only be content with not taking unfair advantage of others or entrapping others, but should also have a loving heart, conscience and reason. And we should be able to pardon each other, help each other, and care about others, benefiting others in all things. We should be able to think about others instead of only ourselves and, moreover be able to sympathize with others’ weakness and forgive the transgressions of other people. Only by holding fast to these principles, can we establish a proper relationship with others and get along harmoniously with them.” After reading the fellowship, Minghui was clear in her heart: I have already gained the blessings of God. I have my own house and live a comfortable life, while my in-laws are too old and the elder brother does need money to look after them. Therefore, they gave the bank card and payroll card to him. They just make a reasonable arrangement to make sure the whole family can live a normal life. So I needn’t haggle over every little thing and have greed for the little pension of my father-in-law. Living in the world, we shouldn’t only think about ourselves but the people around us. Only in this way, can we feel grounded and peaceful. With God’s care and guidance, Minghui was willing to let go of the former grudges and live out normal humanity to glorify God. Thinking in this way, Minghui felt relaxed and liberated, and tasted the enjoyment of practicing the truth and living out the word of God!

After a while, her husband told her that her mother-in-law got sick and could not walk, and asked her to go home. Minghui thought to herself: Since she cannot walk, I will have to take care of her and spend money if I’m gonna visit her. Thinking back on how her in-laws treated her in the past, there was a battle within her: go or not? Just as Minghui was hesitating, God’s words came into her mind, “In the dispositions of normal people there is no crookedness or deceitfulness, people have a normal relationship with each other, they do not stand alone, and their lives are neither mediocre nor decadent. So, too, is God exalted among all, His words permeate among man, people live in peace with one another and under the care and protection of God, the earth is filled with harmony, without the interference of Satan, and the glory of God holds the utmost importance among man” (“Interpretation of the Sixteenth Utterance”). The timely enlightenment of God’s word made her understand God’s will: Seeing we human living a miserable life in Satan’s affliction, fighting and killing each other, scheming and cheating one another to satisfy our selfish desires, God hopes we can live out normal humanity, and that we can have true care and understanding when getting along with others, so that we can live in harmony with each other and gain happiness. Minghui understood that God required her not only to have a proper relationship with family members and stop fighting, but also to live out the truth to be a normal person and take care of others with love. Living in grudge these years, she never fulfilled her filial duty to her in-laws. Now God gives her another chance to become a new person, so she should treat her mother-in-law with conscience. Thinking of these, Minghui put aside her grudges and went to look after her mother-in-law with her husband. When she lived out normal humanity, she saw God’s grace and blessings. Because of her friendly attitude, the whole family became harmonious. Seeing Minghui put aside her hatred of them, her father-in-law gladly spared a room for them to live in.

Only then did Minghui realize when she could let go of grudges, practice the truth, live out normal humanity, and show love for others, she would earn others’ respect. In this way, it will be much easier to get along with others. Minghui also deeply felt that it was too painful for her to live with Satan poisons that “Fight for every inch of land and seize every bit you can get.” Now it’s God’s salvation that has changed her life and corrected her viewpoint of Satan. Only God’s word is the truth, the principle of how to conduct ourselves, and the needs of our life; only the truth can bring truly happy life to us. Minghui feels thankful to God from the bottom of her heart. Thanks to God’s word, she has changed her point of view, learned how to be a man, let go of the grudges, and broken free from the miserable life under the domain of Satan, living a truly happy life now.

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My Husband No Longer Chats With Women Online!

By Liu Tao Yang Liu and Xiang Ming got married through a matchmaker’s introduction. After marriage, though their life was not rich, Xiang Ming showed the utmost care and consideration for Yang Liu. When Yang Liu did the cooking, Xiang Ming was always her assistant. When going outside to stroll through streets or going shopping, they all went along with each other. The neighbors who saw them all said, “I find that you come everywhere in pairs. You are really an affectionate couple.” Yang Liu also thought that Xiang Ming was her closest confidant and was her lifetime reliance. After they had their lovely son, their family was even more filled with joy and they lived a steady and happy life. When their relative preached the gospel to them, their whole family all believed in the Lord Jesus. Later on, Yang Liu had the privilege of accepting God’s work of the last days. In the same year, they built a spacious and bright house. Xiang Ming didn’t accept God’s work of the last days, but he supported Yang Liu to believe in God, so their relationship was still enviable. However, not long after Xiang Ming worked in a grain and oil processing factory, Yang Liu found that he was a little different from the past. Several times, when they walked together, as soon as his phone rang, he would move away to answer it. Yang Liu guessed: Does Xiang Ming have the unfaithful intentions when he works outside? But when thinking that he treated her very well all the time and had paid a great price for the family, she considered he wouldn’t do that. Although she thought like this, she was still a little worried. Once, a message was sent to his phone as Xiang Ming fell asleep. Because of his abnormal changes, Yang Liu couldn’t help but read the message. It was sent by a female WeChat friend. She replied, “Would you be able to not chat with my husband?” But she never imagined that the female WeChat friend said, “It is not up to me. You should ask your husband. We chatted very happily! You’d better dominate your husband!” Yang Liu was filled with anger at the sight of that, so she turned her husband’s phone off. The next day, she warned Xiang Ming not to chat with female WeChat friends any more. He didn’t refute her, but he began to avoid her. When at home, he always finished meals at the fastest speed, and then looked for an excuse and went to other places to chat with the female net friends. One time, Yang Liu asked Xiang Ming in resentment, “Do you still want the family? Is playing WeChat to talk with female net friends important or am I important? Unexpectedly, he answered coldly, “The female net friends are more important. Now it is Internet age. Who doesn’t do like this, broadening connections and making friends with others? This is fashion!” Hearing her husband’s cold words, Yang Liu seemed to not know him who had lived with herself for over twenty years. Feelings of sorrow and desolation welled up in her heart. At that moment, she felt herself would be faint with anger. She thought about divorcing and leaving the home. But at the thought of her son needing a perfect family, she had to swallow it all up. From then on, Yang Liu and Xiang Ming separately lived in the eastern and western rooms. Though living under the same roof, they were like strangers. The happy family lost the former warmth and peace. Yang Liu felt agonized and stressful in her heart. She didn’t understand why Xiang Ming could become such a person now—a completely different person from before. With sorrow and distress, she could only pray and cry out to God over and over. One day, she saw these words of God, “One after another, all these trends carry an evil influence that continually degenerates man, that lowers their morals and their quality of character more and more, to the extent that we can even say the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. … For man who is not of sound body and mind, who never knows what is truth, who cannot tell the difference between positive and negative things, these kinds of trends one after another make them all willingly accept these trends, the life view, the life philosophies and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them on how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them. They have not the strength, neither do they have the ability, much less the awareness to resist.” From God’s word, she understood: It was because of the influence of web and trends that her husband became like this and could say those words having no regard for their feelings as husband and wife. Thinking back, her husband was fairly fond of her, cherished and cared for their family very much, and had the sense of responsibility. But from the time when he worked in the grain and oil processing factory, under the influence of his colleagues and environment, he became obsessed with chatting on WeChat, always having his phone in his hands. He was deeply addicted to it and unable to extricate himself, totally neglecting their family, her or their son at all. Through the revelation of God’s word, Yang Liu understood: The culprit that have destroyed the happiness of their family is the evil influence brought by the social evil trends, is the WeChat app which occupies her husband’s heart every day, but not her husband, as he is just an innocent and pitiful victim. At that point, she didn’t resent him that much. She resolved to rely on God to fight the battle against satanic evil trends, bringing Xiang Ming back from the claws of Satan. By praying to God and relying on Him, she didn’t give Xiang Ming the cold shoulder as before. She began to speak with him from the heart actively and often read God’s word for him, talked about the harm that social trends bring to man and fellowshiped God’s will of saving man. Seeing the changes of Yang Liu’s attitude, Xiang Ming was able to sit down and had a heart-to-heart talk with her. One day, Yang Liu read two passages of God’s words to Xiang Ming, “The devil Satan does these things in order to lure people, to cause them to degenerate. For those who live in virtual worlds, they have no interest whatsoever in anything to do with the life of normal humanity; they are not in the mood to work or study. They are only concerned about going to virtual worlds, as though they are being enticed by something.” “So within an environment, whatever this environment instills in you, you then become; whatever it instills in you, you then obtain; however it controls you and leads you, in the end you become that kind of person. A man can become someone who is degenerate, evil, and bad in the extreme, and these things are what are brought to him by his environment. So who is the manipulator who controls this environment? What is its nature? … You become like this, and you don’t know when the change began, you’re unclear about it. You’re unclear on how this change has happened. Anyway, you have become who you are today. You don’t know how on earth you came to be this way, you’re unclear about why you took this path in the beginning, unclear about why you have now become like this; in short, you came to be this way in a state of confusion. This is the process of Satan’s corruption of man, and it is the method it uses, and people are therefore corrupted and degenerated in this way.” Yang Liu fellowshiped, “Xiang Ming, you were not like this before. You treated me well, treated our son well and also loved the family very much. But since you are addicted to chatting on WeChat, you have no longer taken care of son and me, and even sometimes you can’t hear me when I talked to you. Moreover, you have lost the normal life. I found that you didn’t know whether you were full when you ate meals, and just gorged some food and then went outside the dining room to play WeChat. You were also not in the mood to work, but were preoccupied with chatting online as well as those female net friends all day. It proves that you have been controlled by the evil trends. Xiang Ming, you seek temporary excitement and comfort when chatting with them, but have you given thought to this? Can chatting on the web really bring you happiness? Can you rely on chatting with these female net friends to spend the rest of your life? Looking around, how many families have broken up because of one side’s chatting online. Some women abandoned their husbands and children and ran off with male net friends; some men left their wives and children for female net friends and involved with them. Aren’t these tragedies caused by the evil trends raised up by Satan?We don’t have the truth and can’t see through Satan’s trickery, but today God’s word has revealed all the treacherous intentions of Satan. Satan is just using the Internet to tempt and corrupt us and make us live in passions and lusts, and enjoy the pleasure of sins so that it can reach its objective to devour us and make us perish together with it in the end. So, we can’t be fooled by Satan!” Hearing God’s word and Yang Liu’s fellowship, Xiang Ming felt very frightened and guilty. He said firmly, “Yang Liu, in the past, I thought people all did like this. It was not very serious. I even thought you were petty and made a fuss with me. Not until today do I understand this is Satan corrupting me. It wants to drag me to hell! It’s really the case. Sometimes I also knew it was not good to chat with net friends, which had influenced our feeling as husband and wife, and made me lose the sense of responsibility to our family. Especially when I saw you unhappy, I felt sad, too. And many time I have told myself never again to access WeChat, but I just couldn’t control my heart. Now I understand, this is Satan using online chats to deceive me and harm me. From now on, I can’t fall into Satan’s trickery any more. I will bring my mind back, and no longer indulge in WeChat. Let’s live well anew!” Hearing Xiang Ming’s words, Yang Liu felt warm in her heart and was greatly comforted. In order to prove his sincerity of repentance, Xiang Ming uninstalled the WeChat before Yang Liu. However, a week later, Yang Liu found Xiang Ming’s received WeChat messages on his phone again. When she questioned Xiang Ming, his face flushed scarlet. He promised her that he would no longer go on WeChat, and threw his phone into the burning cooking stove to prove his resolve of cutting off relations with those female net friends. Yang Liu realized the evil trends had poisoned Xiang Ming too deeply and she could only pray to God urgently, asking God to lead him to forsake the temptation of the evil trends and regain the life of a normal man. Later, when a sister of the church came to Yang Liu’s home to attend the meeting, she also communicated with Xiang Ming. They read two passages of God’s word, “Once these things are established in your mind, once they are stuck in your heart, it is just like a spell…. They influence your life, your outlook on life and they also influence your judgment of things. Even more so they influence your pursuit for the true path of life: This is indeed a spell! You try but you cannot shake them off; you chop at them but you cannot chop them down; you beat at them but you cannot beat them down. Is this not so? (Yes.)” “‘Satan uses so many different ways to corrupt man. It seizes every opportunity and is everywhere we turn. Can man still be saved?’ Is there still any hope for mankind? Can man save themselves? (No.) Can the Jade Emperor save man? Can Confucius save man? Can Guanyin Bodhisattva save man? (No.) So who can save man? (God.)” The sister fellowshiped, “Faced with Satan’s evil trends, if we rely on our own willpower to change that, it won’t do. We should rely on God with sincerity. And if we devote our mind to something serious, to seeking the truth, Satan won’t be able to sway our heart any more, because if we read more God’s word, we would be able to understand some truths and differentiate the evil trends of Satan, and then we will hate them naturally and will not be addicted to them and be deceived by them. As long as we rely on God, His word can resolve all our problems.” Xiang Ming made a deep nod. Henceforth, he attended meetings and read God’s word with Yang Liu. Gradually, his heart was not possessed by Internet chat; even if his phone was installed WeChat again, it couldn’t lure his heart. Yang Liu even heard Xiang Ming blame the female net friend several times for pestering him. Through reading God’s word and fellowshiping the truth, Xiang Ming clearly understood that WeChat is a means by which Satan occupies his heart, breaks up his family and even drags him to hell. Meantime, he could distinguish the positive and negative things, and could also quiet his heart before God to seek the truth. The family being on the verge of breaking regained the former laughter and chatter at last. One day, when Yang Liu and Xiang Ming read God’s word together, they saw the following, “All that Satan does is perfectly clear and understood by God. No matter what Satan does, no matter what trend it causes to arise, God knows all that Satan is trying to do, and God does not give up on those He has chosen. Instead, without attracting any attention, secretly, silently, God does everything that is necessary. When He begins work on someone, when He has chosen someone, He does not proclaim it to anyone, nor does He proclaim it to Satan, much less make any grand gesture. He just very quietly, very naturally does what is necessary.” “Only God is the truth. God controls the heavens and earth and everything in them and has dominion over all. Not to believe in God, not to submit to God is to be unable to obtain truth. If you live according to God’s word, you will feel a clarity, stability, and incomparable sweetness in the depths of your heart; you will have truly obtained life.” Both of them understood that if they hadn’t been led and saved by God’s word, if they hadn’t come before God, their family would have broken apart. They truly felt that God’s love is too great and too real. Yang Liu said, “When I was in pain and confusion, it was God who opened my heart with His word and made me see through Satan’s harm to us, the ignorant, so that I could have some understanding of my husband due to hating Satan and no longer resented and complained to him and could release myself from pain. When I prayed to God wholeheartedly and was willing to commit my husband into His hand, it was the leading of God’s word that made him see through Satan’s schemes, come back before Him, and no longer follow the social evil trends or continually degenerate. In my personal experiences, I realized: God’s word is the truth, the way, and the life. God’s word can make us have a clear understanding, can let us gain discernment and see through various schemes and trickeries of Satan poisoning man. God’s word is our most powerful weapon of resisting the attack of evil trends. With God’s word in our hearts, we will never be fooled or harmed by Satan. Thank God for leading my husband and bringing him back to his senses, and thank God more for saving my family. All the glory be to God!” You may be interested in this article: God’s Words Brought Me Out of My Marriage Risk – Spiritual Awakening

2017-12-28 07:27:03

How to Resolve the Marriage Risk Brought by the Social Network Apps?

When Zhiqiang and Linlin knew each other, both of them considered each other as their lifelong partner that they can entrust. Linlin was a college student at that time, so she told Zhiqiang she would marry him after she graduated. During that time, Zhiqiang’s family set their faces against their love relationship. They worried Linlin would break up with Zhiqiang. But Zhiqiang believed they were truly in love, and their love was impregnable. Zhiqiang’s family said resignedly: “You just walk one way to the end, and you will regret one day.” Linlin told Zhiqiang when she knew it: “I assure you, you are the only man I want to marry. No matter how hard life is, I’m willing to face any obstacle and stick it out with you.” Four-year long-distance love race finally ended. Linlin kept her promise when she graduated, she married Zhiqiang. They led a sweet life. The birth of their daughter brought a lot of joy to this family. When Zhiqiang came home after a busy day, Linlin would carry a basin of foot-bath water for him, she also prepared delicious dishes on the table. Zhiqiang gave all his mind to this home as well, he tried his best to provide everything his wife and child needed. Although their living condition was not good, and they also had difficulties, they all gave encourages, comfort and supports to each other. The family lived in peace and happiness. In 2012, Zhiqiang accepted the kingdom gospel of God, but he seldom attended meetings because of his busy work. One day, when Zhiqang came back home after work, Linlin consulted with him that she felt so lonely when she stayed at home during daytime, so she wanted to buy a smartphone to help the time pass. Zhiqiang agreed without hesitation. Since Linlin bought the phone, she couldn’t leave it all day long. There was no care to Zhiqiang as usual, no hot foot-bath water and no delicious dishes anymore, even less and less conversation with Zhiqiang. Sometimes Linlin gave him a cold shoulder when he was talking to her. Zhiqiang felt something wrong: Did she fall in love with other people? But when he thought back over the past ten years, Linlin bore hardship without complaints, and put her whole heart into this family, she shouldn’t do anything wrong to him, so Zhiqiang didn’t think too much about it. However, then Zhiqiang found there indeed was something wrong with his wife. Linlin put all the work away, and checked the phone in a hurry as soon as she got messages on Messenger. And she dodged deliberately in the bathroom, and chatted for half an hour every single time. Seeing her abnormal behavior, his mind was in a turmoil. He thought: Does she really cheat on me? I have to figure out what happened. Once Linlin went out for classmates reunion. She drank a lot of wine and she staggered back home. But she still chatted on Messenger attentively when she lay on the bed, and she was crying. Zhiqiang asked: “Why are you crying? Who are you chatting with? A man or a woman?” Linlin said, “A woman, nothing happened.” Zhiqiang grabbed the phone while Linlin was not paying attention, and she would wildly take the phone back. Zhiqiang avoided her and saw the dialogues in the phone. That guy said: “I know you love me so much, but my wife has already known our relationship …” Zhiqiang couldn’t keep looking. He flushed with anger and couldn’t control his emotion anymore. He raised his hand and gave her a slap across the face. This is the first time that Zhiqiang beat her. Linlin thought she was wrong, so she put her arms around her husband: “Please let me explain to you, we didn’t do any deviant behavior, we just chat casually, trust me!” Zhiqiang said angrily, “How can I believe in you? Can love be said casually to anyone? Don’t explain any more, our good life is over.” Linlin begged piteously to him, “Just forgive me this time, please.” Zhiqiang was in no mood for what she explained. He smashed the phone down on the concrete floor severely, yelling, “I’ll have you played more! I’ll have you played more!” The phone was broken immediately, and Zhiqiang’s heart was broken as well. Men only weep when deeply hurt. Zhiqiang couldn’t control the feeling of pain in his heart anymore when he knew his wife cheated on him. He shed tears, wondering: Why was their deep affection broken vulnerably? Why did his wife become like this? In the past, they helped and took care of each other when they had a bad living condition; now the living condition gets much better, but his wife cheats on him unexpectedly. In retrospect, Zhiqiang ignored parental objections and waited her for 4 years, he thought it would be an indestructible relationship. He never thought their relationship was broken just by Messenger. For the following several days, no matter how Linlin begged for Zhiqiang’s forgiveness, he couldn’t face the fact, living in pain and despair and losing the hope to this marriage completely. At this time, brothers and sisters came to Zhiqiang. They saw that his face creased up with sorrow, so they communicated that when the troubles and pains came to themselves, how they depended on God and how God’s words comforted and helped them out of the pains. Zhiqiang thought the communication of brothers and sisters were very actual, they all spoke their minds, and he was moving by that. He saw God’s actual love and mercy. So he opened his mind as well, pouring out his own bitterness in his heart to brothers and sisters. They comforted ZhiQiang, “Brother, don’t be too sad. Actually, human beings are all innocent. The degeneration of humanity is caused by Satan’s corruption. If we want to hate, we should hate Satan! Satan used evil trends to corrupt us. Especially, playing phones brings a lot of pain to many families. Let’s read some God’s words about this.” Then brothers and sisters read two passages of God’s words to him, “But to people, it seems like a world of gaiety and splendor, one that is becoming more and more so. When people look upon the world, their hearts are drawn to it, and many are unable to extricate themselves from it; great numbers will be beguiled by those who engage in trickery and sorcery. If you do not strive for progress, and are without ideals, you will be swept away by this sinful wave.” “We only wish to talk about the ideas that social trends bring about for people, the way they cause people to conduct themselves in the world, the life goals and outlook that they bring about in people. These are very important; they can control and influence man’s state of mind. One after another, all these trends carry an evil influence that continually degenerates man, that lowers their morals and their quality of character more and more, to the extent that we can even say the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. So what are these trends? You cannot see these trends with the naked eye. When the wind of a trend blows through, perhaps only a small number of people will become the trendsetters. They start off doing this kind of thing, accepting this kind of idea or this kind of perspective. The majority of people, however, in the midst of their unawareness, will still be continually infected, assimilated and attracted by this kind of trend, until they all unknowingly and involuntarily accept it, and are all submerged in and controlled by it. For man who is not of sound body and mind, who never knows what is truth, who cannot tell the difference between positive and negative things, these kinds of trends one after another make them all willingly accept these trends, the life view, the life philosophies and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them on how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them. They have not the strength, neither do they have the ability, much less the awareness to resist.” By looking at God’s word and listening to the communion of brothers and sisters, Zhiqiang’s locked eyebrows were gradually opened. He understood that those people who did not come to God were all fooled by Satan, living in the evil trends, and they didn’t have abilities to resist Satan’s temptations and distinguish between positive and negative things. Looking back to the past, his wife was a gentle, considerate and family-centered person, but since she became fascinated by Messenger, she has become another person. She became crazy about it all the time and didn’t have mind to do anything, only thought of the Messenger. She lost her sense of family responsibility for a long time, which led her to do unethical things. In fact, in the modern society, lots of happy families are broken in this way. Online chatting and online dating have caused more and more serious conflicts between family, and finally they ended in a divorce. Children also lost the warmth of the family and were physically and mentally harmed. At this time, Zhiqiang’s heart was relieved a lot, thinking: Yeah, my wife is also one of the victims who are corrupted by the evil trends. I am just too busy to spend time and energy on Messenger, otherwise, I am also likely to make the same mistake like my wife has done. At this point, Zhiqiang’s heart was full of gratitude to God. But for God’s mercy, and that God moved brothers and sisters in time to communicate God’s word with him, and help him know the reasons why his wife cheated on him and see through Satan’s means and the truth of corruption for people, he would certainly still live in the resentment of his wife, even couldn’t recover after a setback, his family would also be faced with being broken. Zhiqiang heartily thanked God for His true love and salvation. Since then, Zhiqiang actively participated in the meetings. In the word of God, he understood a lot of truths, his wounded heart was soothed for a little bit, and he forgave his wife completely. After Linlin had this bitter lesson, she was willing to repent, and return to the family. The family was restored to its usual stable and peaceful life again. Nowadays, Zhiqiang no longer believed in God with a sloppy attitude, but he devotes more time to communicate the word of God with brothers and sisters. Now he lives a fulfilling life every day.

2017-11-20 17:30:36

I Survived the Caesarean Section!

During the caesarean section, I was in danger many times. Even the doctor could not help. It was God who showed me miracles time after time.

2018-01-13 11:54:55

No Longer Complain About Husband

Pursuing romantic love caused her to complain about and nitpick at her husband for many years. She suffered unspeakably and nearly got divorced. Let’s see how God’s word made her gain the real happiness.

2018-01-13 11:18:11