The Couple at the Edge of Collapse Return to Normal

By Li Na

As a child, I often saw my parents having quarrels over household affairs and I was puzzled about that. As far as I was concerned these trifles were no big deal and did not have to be fought over. I could not be like them when I grow up and get married in the future. Husband and wife should love and tolerate each other. However, as I grew older, after experiencing the marriage personally, I truly felt that the chemistry between couples was not as so simple as I imagined.

My husband and I fell in love at our will (at that age, most of the youth’s marriage was arranged by their parents). However, my parents strongly opposed our marriage because my husband was born in a rural village, but he was the only person I wanted to marry. In consequence, I was turfed out of my home by my parents. After learning that, my husband comforted me with honeyed words and a solemn pledge of love, by which I was deeply moved to tears. That was when our marriage began.

The Couple at the Edge of Collapse Return to Normal

Within the couple of months after we got married, sometimes we bickered about some petty things, yet it passed easily as long as we forbore each other. Then one day, when we were going to the garden to spray fruit trees with pesticide, my father-in-law told us to take the pesticide but we both forgot it. As a result, my husband blamed me for not remembering it, while I reproached him for not taking it in advance. With this we began to fight. He said, “We will talk about this when we get home, don’t embarrass me!” Not to be outdone, I said, “I don’t care.” He looked at me with an impatient look. However, I didn’t take it to heart, thinking that we just tied the knot, needing a time of adjustment, and that everything was going to be fine after a period of time. Unexpectedly, henceforth, we had quarrels continuously. Conflicts and quarrels often happened, more and more furiously, and he even beat me just on account of the slightest thing. At that moment, I felt very sick to my stomach and wanted to pack my stuff to go to my elder sister’s. But then I thought: I’m already pregnant. What’s the point of going there? Wouldn’t I have to return eventually? Thinking it over, I could only swallow hard to stay at home. At this moment, I didn’t believe in our “true love” any more, only hoping our baby’s birth could bring a favorable turn for our relations.

Just as expected, over the ten months after our baby was born, my husband was always there for me when I needed him for fear that I would endure hardship or tiredness. Seeing this, I thought a good life had come, however, the fact was not the same as I imagined. One day, my child was playing with my husband’s niece and then they had a fight, my child’s face bled. I couldn’t contain my anger and said to my husband, “Look at your niece. She beat our child so severely, yet you don’t lecture her. How could you not be sorry for him at all?” My husband was burned up, saying, “They just had a fight, it doesn’t hurt. Wasn’t there just a little bleeding?” Then we were in quarreling, grappling with each other. After that, it was common for us to have quarrels and frays and we easily tussled. I was heart-stricken in the face of our marital discord, spending my days in tears. Gradually, I got fed up with our marriage as well as family.

The Couple at the Edge of Collapse Return to Normal

In 1995, for the sake of avoiding family conflicts, I went to work away from home. Since that time, we were more estranged. We didn’t write to each other, nor even did we say anything when I returned to see our child. Just like that, my husband and I were like strangers, becoming a couple strange but familiar. Just then, I remembered that there were many family tragedies on TV and in print, resulting from alienation of mutual affection, and that my workmates and friends were also suffering from family conflicts. Now, it had become a common and hard to solve problem in family life. Formerly, so naive was I that I saw the conjugal relation so simply. As the saying went, “Even an upright official finds it hard to settle a family quarrel.” Family affairs were so complicated. How could I solve this difficult problem depending on my own “ability”?

In May of 2012, I fortunately accepted Almighty God’s work of the last days and also brought my husband before God two months later. One day, due to some household chores, a fighting occurred again for each of us aired our own views. When it was time for church meetings, I told a sister about our disagreement. She found a passage of God’s word for me, “Cruel, brutal mankind! The conniving and intrigue, the jostling with each other, the scramble for reputation and fortune, the mutual slaughter—when will it ever end? God has spoken hundreds of thousands of words, yet no one has come to their senses. They act for the sake of their families, and sons and daughters, for their careers, prospects, status, vanity, and money, for the sake of clothes, for food and the flesh…? How many do not act for the sake of their own interests? How many do not oppress and discriminate against others for the sake of maintaining their own status?” (“The Wicked Must Be Punished”). She fellowshiped with me, “God’s word has revealed the relationships between people. Our hearts are harassed by all sorts of satanic poisons and feudal thoughts for several thousand years, we are permeated with a variety of satanic poisons and live in Satan’s corruption, becoming arrogant and conceited, living for fame and gain, face, desire, and so forth. Therefore, we slaughter one another, fight continually and don’t have forbearance for each other. Couples are no exception. They dispute trivial matters endlessly, and they are overwhelmed with distress and unable to extricate themselves. Today, that God incarnate expresses the word is to purify and change the satanic corrupt disposition of us, so that we are no longer controlled by these satanic poisons, living out human likeness by the truth and being saved by God. So, sister, do not be entangled by these trifles anymore, otherwise you will live in the deception of Satan, even be captured by Satan. You ought to betray these poisons and treat your husband according to God’s word.” Through her fellowship, I came to understand: It is these poisons and viewpoints Satan instills into us that result in a bad relationship between my husband and me and bring estrangement and divergence to people, whom we are victims among. My husband is innocent. Being poisoned by the satanic viewpoints “A man lives for his face, and a tree lives for its bark,” “Being arrogant and conceited,” he felt disgraceful when I had quarrels with him and scolded him before others. Therefore, he had a grudge against me, fell out with me unceasingly and even beat me. And I, living by arrogant and conceited nature, wanted him to surround me and listen to me in everything. When he was rude to me or spoke loudly, I was reluctant to show weakness, and would oppose him. Ultimately, we were separated from the other, and emotionally on the verge of collapse. Now I knew the real culprit was Satan. For this reason, my hatred of him was removed and I wasn’t as angry as I was before. Accordingly, our relations eased little by little.

One day, when my husband phoned me on his way home after travelling, I didn’t hear the phone because I put it on vibration mode. At midnight, he returned, and as soon as he came in he said furiously, “I clearly told you I would be back tonight. Why didn’t you keep the phone with you?” I said, “I forgot it. Well, it’s too late. Go to bed and have a sleep.” He didn’t reply me and laid down on the sofa. Looking at my angry husband, I prayed to God ceaselessly for helping me to live out a normal humanity, not to argue with him over the little things, to disgrace God’s name and to be a laughingstock to Satan. After praying, I was much calmer and I saw God’s word later, “After living together for several years, they will have gotten used to each other, and locked horns a few times. But if you are both of normal humanity, you will always commune the words within your heart to him, and he to you. Whatever difficulties you have in life, the problems in your work, what you’re thinking in your heart, how you plan to sort things out, what ideas and plans you have for your work or children—you’ll tell him everything. In that case, are the two of you especially close to each other, and especially intimate with each other? If he never tells you the words within his heart, and does nothing but bring a paycheck home, and if you never speak to him of the words within your heart, and never confide in him, then is there not a distance between the two of you in your hearts? There surely is. He is distant from you, and you from him, because you don’t understand the thoughts or intentions in his heart. Ultimately, you cannot tell what kind of person he is, nor can he tell what kind of person you are; you don’t understand his needs, nor does he understand your requirements. If people have no verbal or spiritual communication, there is no possibility of intimacy between them, and they can’t provide to each other or help one another” (“To Be Honest, You Should Lay Yourself Open to Others”). After reading God’s word, I knew that the reason why we argued constantly was that I didn’t open my heart to him. In fact, six months after the wedding, there had been a distance between us. I neither told him what I was thinking in my heart nor knew his thoughts. We lived together in this way for so many years, as we lived together in partnership, having no common language at all. Although we lived under the same roof, our hearts were far apart. Just because of this, we had endless quarrels and were distant. With time passing by, a cold war came into being and our relationship also was on the verge of shattering, even if a slightly touch would lead to it falling apart. Thinking of this, I decided to share my experience and understanding with him when having meetings, practicing being an honest person which God likes in accordance with God’s word.

Once, in a meeting, I opened my heart to fellowship about my experience with my husband. The Couple at the Edge of Collapse Return to Normal I said, “Actually, it was not about you at all when we had an argument. I’ve been corrupted by Satan, having no human likeness. I am so arrogant that I always make you listen to me. When you spoke loudly, my voice would be louder than yours. Recalling back, now I realize I really have no humanity.” Hearing my words, he told me sincerely, “In fact, I knew it was not your fault in many things. I don’t know we’ve been corrupted by Satan so deeply, lacking in reason, until we believe in God today. Sometimes I knew clearly that I was wrong, but I didn’t allow you to blame me. I thought if I couldn’t criticize you, I would be dominated by you, so we always engaged in fights. …” I was surprised by such words he said, because he was very chauvinistic before. He never admitted his mistakes, even if we quarreled and I left home for work. But, today, he set aside position and face and said sorry to me, which let me see the authority and power of God’s word and that only Almighty God’s word can change people. I said to him happily, “Now, we understand: The root cause for all suffering is Satan’s corruption, and we are the puppets and tools in its hand. We are deeply harmed in that we have no truth and discernment, living in the struggle between people and feeling powerless to change that, whereas God doesn’t give up His salvation for us, never wishing to hear our wail when we suffer under Satan’s domain. He neither wants us to be trampled by Satan arbitrarily when we live in the world, nor wishes to see that we live by the corrupt satanic disposition, belong to Satan and fall into hell to suffer the permanent punishment, so God expresses the word to save us. Without the leading and guidance of God’s word, we would not have a normal relationship and would harbor our secrets in our hearts, still living as strange bedfellows. What will our future be? I could not even conceive that. Only God loves us most, and only God can save us from the affliction and bondage of Satan.” My husband nodded after hearing my fellowship.

Since believing in Almighty God, under the guidance of Him, my heart is wakened day by day from a long dead sleep, with the former painful years fading away. … Step by step, our relationship has become more rapport and harmonious! Though having expression of corruption, we can nevertheless open our hearts, respect and love each other, which is the result yielded by God’s word. Thank God for His love and salvation! May all the glory be to Almighty God!

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My Husband No Longer Chats With Women Online!

By Liu Tao Yang Liu and Xiang Ming got married through a matchmaker’s introduction. After marriage, though their life was not rich, Xiang Ming showed the utmost care and consideration for Yang Liu. When Yang Liu did the cooking, Xiang Ming was always her assistant. When going outside to stroll through streets or going shopping, they all went along with each other. The neighbors who saw them all said, “I find that you come everywhere in pairs. You are really an affectionate couple.” Yang Liu also thought that Xiang Ming was her closest confidant and was her lifetime reliance. After they had their lovely son, their family was even more filled with joy and they lived a steady and happy life. When their relative preached the gospel to them, their whole family all believed in the Lord Jesus. Later on, Yang Liu had the privilege of accepting God’s work of the last days. In the same year, they built a spacious and bright house. Xiang Ming didn’t accept God’s work of the last days, but he supported Yang Liu to believe in God, so their relationship was still enviable. However, not long after Xiang Ming worked in a grain and oil processing factory, Yang Liu found that he was a little different from the past. Several times, when they walked together, as soon as his phone rang, he would move away to answer it. Yang Liu guessed: Does Xiang Ming have the unfaithful intentions when he works outside? But when thinking that he treated her very well all the time and had paid a great price for the family, she considered he wouldn’t do that. Although she thought like this, she was still a little worried. Once, a message was sent to his phone as Xiang Ming fell asleep. Because of his abnormal changes, Yang Liu couldn’t help but read the message. It was sent by a female WeChat friend. She replied, “Would you be able to not chat with my husband?” But she never imagined that the female WeChat friend said, “It is not up to me. You should ask your husband. We chatted very happily! You’d better dominate your husband!” Yang Liu was filled with anger at the sight of that, so she turned her husband’s phone off. The next day, she warned Xiang Ming not to chat with female WeChat friends any more. He didn’t refute her, but he began to avoid her. When at home, he always finished meals at the fastest speed, and then looked for an excuse and went to other places to chat with the female net friends. One time, Yang Liu asked Xiang Ming in resentment, “Do you still want the family? Is playing WeChat to talk with female net friends important or am I important? Unexpectedly, he answered coldly, “The female net friends are more important. Now it is Internet age. Who doesn’t do like this, broadening connections and making friends with others? This is fashion!” Hearing her husband’s cold words, Yang Liu seemed to not know him who had lived with herself for over twenty years. Feelings of sorrow and desolation welled up in her heart. At that moment, she felt herself would be faint with anger. She thought about divorcing and leaving the home. But at the thought of her son needing a perfect family, she had to swallow it all up. From then on, Yang Liu and Xiang Ming separately lived in the eastern and western rooms. Though living under the same roof, they were like strangers. The happy family lost the former warmth and peace. Yang Liu felt agonized and stressful in her heart. She didn’t understand why Xiang Ming could become such a person now—a completely different person from before. With sorrow and distress, she could only pray and cry out to God over and over. One day, she saw these words of God, “One after another, all these trends carry an evil influence that continually degenerates man, that lowers their morals and their quality of character more and more, to the extent that we can even say the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. … For man who is not of sound body and mind, who never knows what is truth, who cannot tell the difference between positive and negative things, these kinds of trends one after another make them all willingly accept these trends, the life view, the life philosophies and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them on how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them. They have not the strength, neither do they have the ability, much less the awareness to resist.” From God’s word, she understood: It was because of the influence of web and trends that her husband became like this and could say those words having no regard for their feelings as husband and wife. Thinking back, her husband was fairly fond of her, cherished and cared for their family very much, and had the sense of responsibility. But from the time when he worked in the grain and oil processing factory, under the influence of his colleagues and environment, he became obsessed with chatting on WeChat, always having his phone in his hands. He was deeply addicted to it and unable to extricate himself, totally neglecting their family, her or their son at all. Through the revelation of God’s word, Yang Liu understood: The culprit that have destroyed the happiness of their family is the evil influence brought by the social evil trends, is the WeChat app which occupies her husband’s heart every day, but not her husband, as he is just an innocent and pitiful victim. At that point, she didn’t resent him that much. She resolved to rely on God to fight the battle against satanic evil trends, bringing Xiang Ming back from the claws of Satan. By praying to God and relying on Him, she didn’t give Xiang Ming the cold shoulder as before. She began to speak with him from the heart actively and often read God’s word for him, talked about the harm that social trends bring to man and fellowshiped God’s will of saving man. Seeing the changes of Yang Liu’s attitude, Xiang Ming was able to sit down and had a heart-to-heart talk with her. One day, Yang Liu read two passages of God’s words to Xiang Ming, “The devil Satan does these things in order to lure people, to cause them to degenerate. For those who live in virtual worlds, they have no interest whatsoever in anything to do with the life of normal humanity; they are not in the mood to work or study. They are only concerned about going to virtual worlds, as though they are being enticed by something.” “So within an environment, whatever this environment instills in you, you then become; whatever it instills in you, you then obtain; however it controls you and leads you, in the end you become that kind of person. A man can become someone who is degenerate, evil, and bad in the extreme, and these things are what are brought to him by his environment. So who is the manipulator who controls this environment? What is its nature? … You become like this, and you don’t know when the change began, you’re unclear about it. You’re unclear on how this change has happened. Anyway, you have become who you are today. You don’t know how on earth you came to be this way, you’re unclear about why you took this path in the beginning, unclear about why you have now become like this; in short, you came to be this way in a state of confusion. This is the process of Satan’s corruption of man, and it is the method it uses, and people are therefore corrupted and degenerated in this way.” Yang Liu fellowshiped, “Xiang Ming, you were not like this before. You treated me well, treated our son well and also loved the family very much. But since you are addicted to chatting on WeChat, you have no longer taken care of son and me, and even sometimes you can’t hear me when I talked to you. Moreover, you have lost the normal life. I found that you didn’t know whether you were full when you ate meals, and just gorged some food and then went outside the dining room to play WeChat. You were also not in the mood to work, but were preoccupied with chatting online as well as those female net friends all day. It proves that you have been controlled by the evil trends. Xiang Ming, you seek temporary excitement and comfort when chatting with them, but have you given thought to this? Can chatting on the web really bring you happiness? Can you rely on chatting with these female net friends to spend the rest of your life? Looking around, how many families have broken up because of one side’s chatting online. Some women abandoned their husbands and children and ran off with male net friends; some men left their wives and children for female net friends and involved with them. Aren’t these tragedies caused by the evil trends raised up by Satan?We don’t have the truth and can’t see through Satan’s trickery, but today God’s word has revealed all the treacherous intentions of Satan. Satan is just using the Internet to tempt and corrupt us and make us live in passions and lusts, and enjoy the pleasure of sins so that it can reach its objective to devour us and make us perish together with it in the end. So, we can’t be fooled by Satan!” Hearing God’s word and Yang Liu’s fellowship, Xiang Ming felt very frightened and guilty. He said firmly, “Yang Liu, in the past, I thought people all did like this. It was not very serious. I even thought you were petty and made a fuss with me. Not until today do I understand this is Satan corrupting me. It wants to drag me to hell! It’s really the case. Sometimes I also knew it was not good to chat with net friends, which had influenced our feeling as husband and wife, and made me lose the sense of responsibility to our family. Especially when I saw you unhappy, I felt sad, too. And many time I have told myself never again to access WeChat, but I just couldn’t control my heart. Now I understand, this is Satan using online chats to deceive me and harm me. From now on, I can’t fall into Satan’s trickery any more. I will bring my mind back, and no longer indulge in WeChat. Let’s live well anew!” Hearing Xiang Ming’s words, Yang Liu felt warm in her heart and was greatly comforted. In order to prove his sincerity of repentance, Xiang Ming uninstalled the WeChat before Yang Liu. However, a week later, Yang Liu found Xiang Ming’s received WeChat messages on his phone again. When she questioned Xiang Ming, his face flushed scarlet. He promised her that he would no longer go on WeChat, and threw his phone into the burning cooking stove to prove his resolve of cutting off relations with those female net friends. Yang Liu realized the evil trends had poisoned Xiang Ming too deeply and she could only pray to God urgently, asking God to lead him to forsake the temptation of the evil trends and regain the life of a normal man. Later, when a sister of the church came to Yang Liu’s home to attend the meeting, she also communicated with Xiang Ming. They read two passages of God’s word, “Once these things are established in your mind, once they are stuck in your heart, it is just like a spell…. They influence your life, your outlook on life and they also influence your judgment of things. Even more so they influence your pursuit for the true path of life: This is indeed a spell! You try but you cannot shake them off; you chop at them but you cannot chop them down; you beat at them but you cannot beat them down. Is this not so? (Yes.)” “‘Satan uses so many different ways to corrupt man. It seizes every opportunity and is everywhere we turn. Can man still be saved?’ Is there still any hope for mankind? Can man save themselves? (No.) Can the Jade Emperor save man? Can Confucius save man? Can Guanyin Bodhisattva save man? (No.) So who can save man? (God.)” The sister fellowshiped, “Faced with Satan’s evil trends, if we rely on our own willpower to change that, it won’t do. We should rely on God with sincerity. And if we devote our mind to something serious, to seeking the truth, Satan won’t be able to sway our heart any more, because if we read more God’s word, we would be able to understand some truths and differentiate the evil trends of Satan, and then we will hate them naturally and will not be addicted to them and be deceived by them. As long as we rely on God, His word can resolve all our problems.” Xiang Ming made a deep nod. Henceforth, he attended meetings and read God’s word with Yang Liu. Gradually, his heart was not possessed by Internet chat; even if his phone was installed WeChat again, it couldn’t lure his heart. Yang Liu even heard Xiang Ming blame the female net friend several times for pestering him. Through reading God’s word and fellowshiping the truth, Xiang Ming clearly understood that WeChat is a means by which Satan occupies his heart, breaks up his family and even drags him to hell. Meantime, he could distinguish the positive and negative things, and could also quiet his heart before God to seek the truth. The family being on the verge of breaking regained the former laughter and chatter at last. One day, when Yang Liu and Xiang Ming read God’s word together, they saw the following, “All that Satan does is perfectly clear and understood by God. No matter what Satan does, no matter what trend it causes to arise, God knows all that Satan is trying to do, and God does not give up on those He has chosen. Instead, without attracting any attention, secretly, silently, God does everything that is necessary. When He begins work on someone, when He has chosen someone, He does not proclaim it to anyone, nor does He proclaim it to Satan, much less make any grand gesture. He just very quietly, very naturally does what is necessary.” “Only God is the truth. God controls the heavens and earth and everything in them and has dominion over all. Not to believe in God, not to submit to God is to be unable to obtain truth. If you live according to God’s word, you will feel a clarity, stability, and incomparable sweetness in the depths of your heart; you will have truly obtained life.” Both of them understood that if they hadn’t been led and saved by God’s word, if they hadn’t come before God, their family would have broken apart. They truly felt that God’s love is too great and too real. Yang Liu said, “When I was in pain and confusion, it was God who opened my heart with His word and made me see through Satan’s harm to us, the ignorant, so that I could have some understanding of my husband due to hating Satan and no longer resented and complained to him and could release myself from pain. When I prayed to God wholeheartedly and was willing to commit my husband into His hand, it was the leading of God’s word that made him see through Satan’s schemes, come back before Him, and no longer follow the social evil trends or continually degenerate. In my personal experiences, I realized: God’s word is the truth, the way, and the life. God’s word can make us have a clear understanding, can let us gain discernment and see through various schemes and trickeries of Satan poisoning man. God’s word is our most powerful weapon of resisting the attack of evil trends. With God’s word in our hearts, we will never be fooled or harmed by Satan. Thank God for leading my husband and bringing him back to his senses, and thank God more for saving my family. All the glory be to God!” You may be interested in this article: God’s Words Brought Me Out of My Marriage Risk – Spiritual Awakening

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How to Resolve the Marriage Risk Brought by the Social Network Apps?

When Zhiqiang and Linlin knew each other, both of them considered each other as their lifelong partner that they can entrust. Linlin was a college student at that time, so she told Zhiqiang she would marry him after she graduated. During that time, Zhiqiang’s family set their faces against their love relationship. They worried Linlin would break up with Zhiqiang. But Zhiqiang believed they were truly in love, and their love was impregnable. Zhiqiang’s family said resignedly: “You just walk one way to the end, and you will regret one day.” Linlin told Zhiqiang when she knew it: “I assure you, you are the only man I want to marry. No matter how hard life is, I’m willing to face any obstacle and stick it out with you.” Four-year long-distance love race finally ended. Linlin kept her promise when she graduated, she married Zhiqiang. They led a sweet life. The birth of their daughter brought a lot of joy to this family. When Zhiqiang came home after a busy day, Linlin would carry a basin of foot-bath water for him, she also prepared delicious dishes on the table. Zhiqiang gave all his mind to this home as well, he tried his best to provide everything his wife and child needed. Although their living condition was not good, and they also had difficulties, they all gave encourages, comfort and supports to each other. The family lived in peace and happiness. In 2012, Zhiqiang accepted the kingdom gospel of God, but he seldom attended meetings because of his busy work. One day, when Zhiqang came back home after work, Linlin consulted with him that she felt so lonely when she stayed at home during daytime, so she wanted to buy a smartphone to help the time pass. Zhiqiang agreed without hesitation. Since Linlin bought the phone, she couldn’t leave it all day long. There was no care to Zhiqiang as usual, no hot foot-bath water and no delicious dishes anymore, even less and less conversation with Zhiqiang. Sometimes Linlin gave him a cold shoulder when he was talking to her. Zhiqiang felt something wrong: Did she fall in love with other people? But when he thought back over the past ten years, Linlin bore hardship without complaints, and put her whole heart into this family, she shouldn’t do anything wrong to him, so Zhiqiang didn’t think too much about it. However, then Zhiqiang found there indeed was something wrong with his wife. Linlin put all the work away, and checked the phone in a hurry as soon as she got messages on Messenger. And she dodged deliberately in the bathroom, and chatted for half an hour every single time. Seeing her abnormal behavior, his mind was in a turmoil. He thought: Does she really cheat on me? I have to figure out what happened. Once Linlin went out for classmates reunion. She drank a lot of wine and she staggered back home. But she still chatted on Messenger attentively when she lay on the bed, and she was crying. Zhiqiang asked: “Why are you crying? Who are you chatting with? A man or a woman?” Linlin said, “A woman, nothing happened.” Zhiqiang grabbed the phone while Linlin was not paying attention, and she would wildly take the phone back. Zhiqiang avoided her and saw the dialogues in the phone. That guy said: “I know you love me so much, but my wife has already known our relationship …” Zhiqiang couldn’t keep looking. He flushed with anger and couldn’t control his emotion anymore. He raised his hand and gave her a slap across the face. This is the first time that Zhiqiang beat her. Linlin thought she was wrong, so she put her arms around her husband: “Please let me explain to you, we didn’t do any deviant behavior, we just chat casually, trust me!” Zhiqiang said angrily, “How can I believe in you? Can love be said casually to anyone? Don’t explain any more, our good life is over.” Linlin begged piteously to him, “Just forgive me this time, please.” Zhiqiang was in no mood for what she explained. He smashed the phone down on the concrete floor severely, yelling, “I’ll have you played more! I’ll have you played more!” The phone was broken immediately, and Zhiqiang’s heart was broken as well. Men only weep when deeply hurt. Zhiqiang couldn’t control the feeling of pain in his heart anymore when he knew his wife cheated on him. He shed tears, wondering: Why was their deep affection broken vulnerably? Why did his wife become like this? In the past, they helped and took care of each other when they had a bad living condition; now the living condition gets much better, but his wife cheats on him unexpectedly. In retrospect, Zhiqiang ignored parental objections and waited her for 4 years, he thought it would be an indestructible relationship. He never thought their relationship was broken just by Messenger. For the following several days, no matter how Linlin begged for Zhiqiang’s forgiveness, he couldn’t face the fact, living in pain and despair and losing the hope to this marriage completely. At this time, brothers and sisters came to Zhiqiang. They saw that his face creased up with sorrow, so they communicated that when the troubles and pains came to themselves, how they depended on God and how God’s words comforted and helped them out of the pains. Zhiqiang thought the communication of brothers and sisters were very actual, they all spoke their minds, and he was moving by that. He saw God’s actual love and mercy. So he opened his mind as well, pouring out his own bitterness in his heart to brothers and sisters. They comforted ZhiQiang, “Brother, don’t be too sad. Actually, human beings are all innocent. The degeneration of humanity is caused by Satan’s corruption. If we want to hate, we should hate Satan! Satan used evil trends to corrupt us. Especially, playing phones brings a lot of pain to many families. Let’s read some God’s words about this.” Then brothers and sisters read two passages of God’s words to him, “But to people, it seems like a world of gaiety and splendor, one that is becoming more and more so. When people look upon the world, their hearts are drawn to it, and many are unable to extricate themselves from it; great numbers will be beguiled by those who engage in trickery and sorcery. If you do not strive for progress, and are without ideals, you will be swept away by this sinful wave.” “We only wish to talk about the ideas that social trends bring about for people, the way they cause people to conduct themselves in the world, the life goals and outlook that they bring about in people. These are very important; they can control and influence man’s state of mind. One after another, all these trends carry an evil influence that continually degenerates man, that lowers their morals and their quality of character more and more, to the extent that we can even say the majority of people now have no integrity, no humanity, neither do they have any conscience, much less any reason. So what are these trends? You cannot see these trends with the naked eye. When the wind of a trend blows through, perhaps only a small number of people will become the trendsetters. They start off doing this kind of thing, accepting this kind of idea or this kind of perspective. The majority of people, however, in the midst of their unawareness, will still be continually infected, assimilated and attracted by this kind of trend, until they all unknowingly and involuntarily accept it, and are all submerged in and controlled by it. For man who is not of sound body and mind, who never knows what is truth, who cannot tell the difference between positive and negative things, these kinds of trends one after another make them all willingly accept these trends, the life view, the life philosophies and values that come from Satan. They accept what Satan tells them on how to approach life and the way to live that Satan ‘bestows’ on them. They have not the strength, neither do they have the ability, much less the awareness to resist.” By looking at God’s word and listening to the communion of brothers and sisters, Zhiqiang’s locked eyebrows were gradually opened. He understood that those people who did not come to God were all fooled by Satan, living in the evil trends, and they didn’t have abilities to resist Satan’s temptations and distinguish between positive and negative things. Looking back to the past, his wife was a gentle, considerate and family-centered person, but since she became fascinated by Messenger, she has become another person. She became crazy about it all the time and didn’t have mind to do anything, only thought of the Messenger. She lost her sense of family responsibility for a long time, which led her to do unethical things. In fact, in the modern society, lots of happy families are broken in this way. Online chatting and online dating have caused more and more serious conflicts between family, and finally they ended in a divorce. Children also lost the warmth of the family and were physically and mentally harmed. At this time, Zhiqiang’s heart was relieved a lot, thinking: Yeah, my wife is also one of the victims who are corrupted by the evil trends. I am just too busy to spend time and energy on Messenger, otherwise, I am also likely to make the same mistake like my wife has done. At this point, Zhiqiang’s heart was full of gratitude to God. But for God’s mercy, and that God moved brothers and sisters in time to communicate God’s word with him, and help him know the reasons why his wife cheated on him and see through Satan’s means and the truth of corruption for people, he would certainly still live in the resentment of his wife, even couldn’t recover after a setback, his family would also be faced with being broken. Zhiqiang heartily thanked God for His true love and salvation. Since then, Zhiqiang actively participated in the meetings. In the word of God, he understood a lot of truths, his wounded heart was soothed for a little bit, and he forgave his wife completely. After Linlin had this bitter lesson, she was willing to repent, and return to the family. The family was restored to its usual stable and peaceful life again. Nowadays, Zhiqiang no longer believed in God with a sloppy attitude, but he devotes more time to communicate the word of God with brothers and sisters. Now he lives a fulfilling life every day.

2017-11-20 17:30:36

I Survived the Caesarean Section!

During the caesarean section, I was in danger many times. Even the doctor could not help. It was God who showed me miracles time after time.

2018-01-13 11:54:55

No Longer Complain About Husband

Pursuing romantic love caused her to complain about and nitpick at her husband for many years. She suffered unspeakably and nearly got divorced. Let’s see how God’s word made her gain the real happiness.

2018-01-13 11:18:11

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